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September 24, 2015

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I have a partner of 7 years and I’m 7 months pregnant now. I can say that we are a happy couple. He works and stays in Cavite and goes home to me every Saturday. Despite the long distance, we remain strong and happy. One day, when we were together he received an anonymous text message. I replied to the text asking who he is. It was his ex. I don’t know if it was pregnancy hormones that triggered my craziness but I was shocked and cried thinking why she knows his number. I asked him how did she know his number and since when are they talking. He keeps on denying he doesn’t know how the girl got his number and even said that they never talked. I believed him.

  After that, we tried to move on and pretend that it didn’t happen but lately, he has changed. He has always an excuse of not immediately answering my calls and text messages. Sometimes, he won’t text me for a day or two. He’s not like this, DJ Chloe. They say that women are good detectives. So I did some investigations. I found a Facebook account of my partner in which the girl is one of his friends. I haven’t confronted him about this. She was the girl before me. He became my boyfriend without the knowledge that they were still together. When I found out, I was ready to leave him yet he decided to leave the girl for me. Then we lived together and now we’re having our baby. Then this thing is happened again which drives me really crazy. I’m afraid that he’s doing it again. They might be talking to each other again or maybe even meeting behind my back. He keeps on denying it and tells me that It’s just me and our baby are his priorities. I do believe in women’s intuition and it’s the reason why I caught him the first time. I don’t know what to do. This is really stressing me. I would even cry sometimes which I know is not good for my baby. Should I believe what he says but he’s not making me feel it? Looking forward to your advice.

  Ms. Due-in-December

   

  Dear Miss Due in December,

  This stress you are going thru will definitely takes its toll on your baby. So I would suggest that concentrate on being pregnant first and having a safe delivery. Once the baby is out, your life will change 100%, that I am telling you. Maybe he is cheating on you, maybe he’s not. And in case he is, can you handle the truth? Boys will be boys, that’s one thing I’m certain. That’s why it’s important to never anchor your whole life in a man, never should your world revolve only in him, put value in yourself. It’s important to still be that person you once were before you became a “Missis” whoever. You should by all means still have your own money and own source of income. Never lose yourself in love and in loving someone that you forget who you are. I don’t know what to tell you, to make you feel better. I have been in your situation 16 years ago. The day the truth blew right in front of my face I decided to walk away with a  three month old baby whom I know I will take care of alone for the rest of my life. I believe I made the wisest decision in my life. Pray for God’s hand on your plight. His timing is always perfect. Good luck.

  -Chloe

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