Answer These 6 Questions Before You Say ‘I Love You’

Adi Miguel

January 31, 2017

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  On the right time, on the right day, on the right circumstances, someone will come your way who will make you finally let go of the words “I love you.”

  We know that love comes when you least expect it to. It’s not something that you have to prepare yourself. It’s not something that you have to mark on your calendar. Someone once said, “When you know it [love], you know it.” The universe will just play a good role of making you aware that it’s the love that is designed for you. You don’t have to warm-up or train your heart. It will just come.

  But how do you know if it’s the right moment to say “I love you” and reply “I love you too”? When’s the right time to seal your status from being “exclusively dating” to “in a relationship”?

  When you’re about to say the magic words, when your heart is ready to fall in love, then maybe, you have to ask these questions to yourself…

  1. Does sex is the only thing that matters to me?

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  Have you asked yourself if you’ll love your partner even if he or she will say ‘no’ to sex?

  We know that sex plays a big part in the relationship. But if it’s the only thing that will keep your relationship going, then maybe you have check if you really love the person you’ll say “I love you” to.

  2. Are you keeping secrets from your partner?

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  Are there things that you do not tell your partner? May it be on your past or in your present.

  If you really love the person you’ll tell him or her everything that he or she has to know. You, yourself, know those things. Before you say the three important words, you have to ask yourself if there’s still something that you have to tell your partner. It may not make sense to you now. But later on you will realize that this will help you both on how to handle your relationship.

  3. Are you honest to your partner? Like all the time?

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  Do you tell your partner the things that are not okay to you?

  Love is always give and take. You get to learn on how to adjust. And your partner will not know how to adjust if you won’t let him or her know. Open communication is crucial in your relationship. It’s important to know what’s running in his or her mind. You have to be aware of the very concerns at the back of his or her head. Because in love what matters to the love of your life must matter to you too.

  4. Have you found a bestfriend in your partner?

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  Is your friendship a lasting one?

  Friendship is the strongest foundation of love. The person you’ll be with forever must be the first go-to person you have. Because that person who you’ll be with will be a part now of your triumphs and joys, your tears and frustrations. It’s like having a walking diary. And if you really love him or her, you must weigh if you have found a bestie on that person.

  5. Is he or her your soul mate?

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  Do you have this feeling that you love this person even before you met?

  Like, all the comfort that you’re searching for in your lifetime is in him or her? Your soul mate is the person you can be natural with. That person means a lot in your life and you can’t see your life without him or her.

  Remember, we meet a lot of people in our life. And surely, we know who will stay forever even if distance or time separates you. Because you know that if you see each other again those things won’t matter anymore.

  Before you say “I love you”, is he or she your soul mate?

  6. Are you expecting your partner to be the “ideal” one?

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  To love is to accept. Loving means embracing all the flaws and imperfections. That even those things you do not like becomes loveable to you.

  Love is not about falling hearts and stars. It’s about being committed to love a person beyond all good and bad things. It’s extending everything that you have when you think you have given your all. To love is to give your all in all.

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