Some Truths About Being Single That, Maybe, You Haven’t Heard

Adi Miguel

April 17, 2018

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  Have you ever been in a car-ride going to family gathering where you’re already praying to all gods that your marital status won’t be a topic again over food?

  Or was there a time that you just want to punch in the face whoever tries to tell you and make you believe that you’re alone and lonely?

  Or maybe get annoyed on people who keeps on telling you that you have to go out more and stop being a work-aholic even if you’re going out every #HappyThursday and fairly have a social life?

  Don’t you just want to get rid of all these things people believe in why you’re single?

  Don’t you just want to tell them that stop solving this because first and foremost it’s not a problem?

  Have you ever asked the universe why you always have to prove people that you are happy? Or why you always have to explain when you tweet about a good line from a song? Or listen to hugot songs?

  “Bakit single ka pa din?”

  Have scientists found the answer to this question?

  These days, being single felt like a disease. It felt like a burden to the society, a curse that everyone’s so afraid of. Something that people see equivalent to being lonely or bitter.

  But it’s not really like that. There are some truths that singles want people to know and in real life, if these things matter to them, single peeps don’t give a damn about it.

  Can we use that Nadine Lustre line again (just changing the year), “Come on, guys, it’s 2018!”

  And you hear your tita say, “’Yun na nga, 2018 na, single ka pa din.”

  *channeling inner Bobbie*

  

  Because…if you’re single, so what?

  Just because someone’s single at the best-est days of their lives doesn’t mean they’re sad or they do not have plans of settling down. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to share the rest of their lives with other people. Sometimes they’re just not ready. Won’t that be enough reason?

  It doesn’t always mean that they are “too much” for somebody, or they have high standards, or they are too choosy. No, it’s not all about these things. It’s not that they do not believe in love or in romance.

  Actually, they strongly believe in love. They hold on to it and they know its powers and everything. But they also believe in life and its beauty. They also believe that before they can be with someone they have to be with their own selves first.

  It’s not that they are not ready to compromise, or to submit, or to sacrifice. They are capable of doing these things too. But there just times that love is not ready for them…and it’s okay. It’s okay if the universe is taking time for them. Because they are taking time too—one step a day.

  Just like everybody else, they want to grow old with someone who will take care of them. They still see their future with somebody but not too soon…and it’s okay.

  Single people wants to love and be loved in return. They want the feeling of being taken care of and to take care of someone. They would love to have someone to hold hands with while waking, or hug somebody after a long day. They want to have someone to talk to whether good or bad, happy or sad. They want all this mushy stuff.

  But if they won’t have it too soon, can they do anything?

  There are days that they just want to end the season. There are days when they also cry because they want to stop flying solo. But after a few tears and sad songs, they have to stand up again and face the music with a little hope in their heart that every morning is one step closer to the person they’re meant to be with.

  It’s not that they are okay being single. It’s just that they have to go with the flow of the universe, trust the process, because they believe that one day all the alone time will be gone.

  One day, walking on empty streets won’t feel as empty again because someone’s willing to take walks.

  One day, it will no longer bee selfie in a travel photo because someone shares smiles.

  One day, coffee dates won’t be with just with friends anymore because there’s “plus one.”

  One day, overtime at work will be over too because someone’s waiting for them home.

  One day, mobile phones won’t be just for work but for random “I love you” and “I miss you” even if you were just with each other 5 minutes ago.

  One day, flying solo won’t be your thing anymore.

  But for now, while it’s there, own it. It won’t be there for long. Hold on.

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