4 things Millennials can learn about relationships from Taylor Swift’s All Too Well

Albert Rosales

December 9, 2021

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  Taylor Swift released the 10-minute version of her song All Too Well and a lot of people relate to her like they’ve been experiencing it too. Even those NBSB/NGSB felt like it was their experience too.

  With this, what are some heart-piercing lines within this masterpiece and how can Millennials relate to this song?

  “….Any time now, he’s gonna say it’s love. You never called it what it was….”

  We all want to hear an “I love you” back from our significant others. More than the gifts and surprises, being able to hear how much your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you is the most satisfying thing of all. For many of us, it is the highlight of every relationship. 

  Unfortunately, there are others who aren’t ready yet to say these seemingly three simple words. And just like what Taylor Swift did (at least according to her song), she waited for her ex-significant other to say but never did. 

  Sometimes, we just have to accept the fact that we can’t always get what we are expecting from other people. Whether reciprocating the same feelings that we have or simply saying how much they adore us. The most important thing is we make sure that we make them feel loved and we know when to stop.

  And to you, sweetie, who isn’t ready yet to say it back but wants the “perks” of being in love, well expect a great consequence for what you’ve been doing.

  Read: What to do when you’re not ready to say I love you, too.

  “….You kept me like a secret. But I kept you like an oath….”

  In social media, most couples usually “flex” their significant others either through their stories or posting sweet messages. The happiness and “kilig” factor is always out of this world whenever we read the well-thought out messages that our boyfriend/girlfriend penned for us.

  However, it isn’t always the case in some relationships. Some partners prefer to have a private and intimate relationship rather than posting a lot of their pictures together. It may work for some but of course, it is still nice to have your picture in your significant other’s Instagram account once in a while.

  Sweetie, you must learn when to stop compromising for what you want for the sake of your partner’s happiness. If you want to be “flexed” but your partner doesn’t want to, then you should probably ask them what’s the matter. Who knows? Maybe you’re not the only “babe” or “love” that they have.

  “….They say all’s well that ends well. But I’m in a new hell every time. You double-cross my mind….”

  All break-ups are messy. Whether it was a mutual decision or “ghosted” type of relationship, one way or another at least one of them will suffer from the break-up.

  Most of the time you will remember all the memories you have with your ex, all the movies you watched, music you listened to and food you both ate. Even those little things like the smell of their perfume can break you into pieces.

  But it doesn’t mean that you have to call them and ask for a comeback. Of course, you still need to assess if you really miss the person or just miss all the things that you did together. Because if you only miss those things, then you can still do it without them. 

  You don’t need a partner to watch a movie, listen to music or eat your favorite food. Sometimes, it is more fulfilling when you do all these things by yourselves.

  Read: Why being single is not a bad and lonely thing?

  “….The idea you had of me. Who was she?….”

  Have you ever felt that your partner was trying to change you based on their fantasies? Did you sometimes think they’re basing these fantasies from a real person? Imagine how painful it is once you realize that your boyfriend/girlfriend has someone else on their mind whenever you’re together.

  Let’s put it into perspective: there’s nothing wrong about changing yourself for your significant other. If it means improving yourself and your relationship then who are we to stop you? But then again, the keyword here is improving yourself, and not just fulfilling others’ fantasies.

  Sweetie, don’t ever change who you are to please other people. Remember, if those people can’t love you for who you are then they don’t deserve you at all, even in your worst condition. Okay?

  Just like Taylor Swift, you will experience a lot of heartaches not just romantically but in many other aspects of life. But don’t let it discourage you as your time will come when you will just look back at those sad memories and will say to yourself, “I am happy now”.

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