Cliché break-up statements which actually make sense and some that doesn’t

Albert Rosales

February 18, 2022

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  When we’re broken-hearted, nothing seems to make sense. We think that the world is against us all the time. Hence, we think that the following cliché break-up statements are just an excuse.

  However, if we think of it objectively, some of these lines actually make sense, only if they mean it. Stereotyping these statements as mere excuses loses its true meaning because in reality, these situations can happen.

  Let’s take a look at some cliché break-up statements and why it makes sense (Again, only if they mean it).

  Break-up Statement # 1: I need space/I just prefer my own company right now.

  This might seem like a pretty selfish reason if you’re on the receiving end. Some might say, “Why would you enter a relationship when you prefer your own company?” 

  If we zoom this out, some of the realizations they have about wanting to be alone happen once they’re in the relationship and not before. So, it makes sense if they prefer being on their own after they experienced having a partner.

  When you first hear this horrendous line, you might think that the dumper is just making a dumb excuse. But, would you rather be in a relationship where your partner doesn’t wanna be with you all the time?

  Break-up Statement #2: We’re both looking for different things…

  This is one of the most common reasons for break-up. So common that many consider this as just an excuse for a smooth break-up. 

  However, we have to face the reality that couples still have their own individual goals and those goals might not be aligned with their partner’s. So, they end up arguing about who should sacrifice their individual goal: it could be a lifelong dream career, travel, or a happy family.

  Sweetie, NEVER surrender your own identity for the sake of a relationship. If you feel that your relationship is not worth it to sacrifice your dreams, then don’t be scared to say this break-up statement, no matter how cliché it is.

  Break-up Statement #3: I’m not ready to settle down right now.

  Speaking of individual goals, this one is a more specific cliché break-up statement. Some people think of their current relationship as “The One.” I mean, who doesn’t? However, it doesn’t imply that they want to immediately settle down and start a family.

  Others still want to experience many things before they take on the responsibility of taking care of other lives e.g. their children. This leads to a misunderstanding where some think that their partner doesn’t see themselves as their lifetime company.

  So, instead of being in a messy relationship, don’t be afraid to be true to yourself and to your partner. Let them know that you love them but you’re not yet ready to have your own family. Then, they will decide whether they can accept it or not.

  Unpopular opinion: Being in a relationship is a trial-and-error process.

  However, that doesn’t give you the right to utter these horrible break-up lines that don’t make sense at all:

  I’m not good enough for you. – It is the discretion of your partner whether or not you’re good enough for them.

  You deserve someone who loves you for you. – The question is, did you love them before for who they are? Like what you’ve been telling them right now?

  I’m holding you back. – Again, you have no right to decide whether you’re holding them back or not. If they feel you’re worth it, then they’ll make sacrifices.
  I think we should see other people. – Chances are, they’re already seeing other people.

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