3 Things a Guy Learned on Bed

November 27, 2015

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  When I was still single my dad told me that being in a relationship is like a roller coaster ride. I told him that it won’t be the same with me. Well, dads know best. You’ll never know what’s a roller coaster ride until you buckle yourself up and let the engine start.

  I’ve been with Lea for almost two years. And it was a roller coaster ride on a bumpy road. I was required to man up. Our funny conversations became her random gifts to me. When I see her laugh so hard, cry like a little girl, get mad like Hulk, and the girl I liked ever since, it’s heaven. When you man up, these things are priceless. Every little thing about her matters to me already…and making love with her made sense a lot.

  LOVE IS A GIVE AND TAKE PROCESS

  Cliche. Yes, it really is. In my two years with this girl, I learned that when I want her in me I have to consider if she likes it too. It’s because when she wants us under the sheets, she has to consider me too.  It can’t be her alone or me deciding about it. Because of love, we have given sex a deeper meaning.

  IF I TOOK HER CLOTHES OFF, IT’S MY JOB TO PUT THEM BACK

  After we had our first sex, I went straight to the shower and put my clothes on. When I came out of the shower I saw her still on the bed, kind of crying and I asked her what’s wrong. She felt like what happened was just nothing to me because I just left her like that.

  This is not like dressing up your girlfriend or what, this is about respect. You took her clothes off don’t leave her like that because someone might get in the way. I learned to value Lea’s body. I learned to be possessive and protective. I don’t want her to feel bare, nude, or unsafe with me. I respect her and I don’t want anyone to protect her but me.

  WE CAN BE ON BED WITHOUT SEX

  There are times when I thought Lea wants to have sex because he wants us on bed but she can’t just tell me straight. Until one time we sat up and she told me, “Brian, sometimes I just want us on bed and doing nothing. I just want to hug you and touch you and kiss you but not have sex.”

  I began to understood that caress and cuddles matter to woman. So yeah, there were days that we waste time on bed and just doing whatever. There were days when we just cuddle and stare on the window while it rains. There were even days that we’re naughty. Like when she wants a breast massage and I just want a body massage from her.

  What I mean is you have to give yourselves time to just cherish each other.

  Until you’re with each other, it’s a roller coaster ride on bumpy roads. You just have to trust the journey with her.

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