6 Things Men In 20’s Must Make It Real Before Getting Into A Relationship

Adi Miguel

January 5, 2016

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  It’s a brand new year. Everyone’s up on making this year a good one. Almost everybody is up to making memories for themselves and the people they love. The mantra now is to make the most of the time that you have; to invest on long-term things.

  The generation now is smarter. They are not going to repeat history because they are learning from their parents, from their teachers, and from every other heart-breaking stories they hear.

  When a man get in his twenties, he enters the season of relationships. And he knows that it is time to man up. Every man in twenty something must start making these real to himself.

  “I WANT TO BE A…”

  It’s time to know what you really want to be. It’s time to set goals and meet them. It’s time to chase who you really are and be the man that you want you to be. You are already in your twenties, you know balance. You can have fun while pursuing the person that you see yourself years from now.

  You’re doing this not for anybody else but for yourself. But who won’t fall in love with a goal-setter man?

  “I SHOULD TAKE THE LEAD.”

  You are not meant to be under a woman’s feet nor anyone’s. You are not meant to be her underdog. You are meant to lead not to rule. You are to guide not to control. You are to protect not to prohibit. You are above but not a god.

  It’s time to level up yourself. You’re in charge of the relationship you have with the opposite sex. But don’t overdo it. You can carry a bag but don’t look like you’re the assistant. You can bring her food but it’s not your obligation to feed her every single time. You can pick her up but remember that you’re not the driver.

  “I AM THE MARRYING TYPE.”

  You might be in your early 20s but it’s not too soon to prepare. You can enjoy manhood and still be reserved. Let every girl dream of you. Let them say your name whenever they’re asked for ideal boyfriend. You don’t have to be the heartthrob to be the marrying type. You just got to have a heart.

  Always remember your mom whenever you’re planning to court. How you love your mom is how you love a girl.

  “I AM MATURE…”

  Mature enough not to flirt. Mature enough not to make a girl fall in love and left her hanging. Mature enough to confront. Mature enough to make life-changing decisions. Mature enough to follow rules. Mature enough to face relationship problems.

  “I DON’T PLAY GAMES.”

  Whatever game gets in your head that’s it. This year, why not get serious with the things that you’re entering. Why not stop flirting? Why not stop courting two girls at the same time? Why not quit being the asshole they’ve been calling you and try to be that loyal guy? Why not try quit playing? You’re too old for that after all.

  “I’LL GET HER RIGHT.”

  Stop asking her out through chat on Facebook. Stop sending her text messages asking if you can court her. Stop saying your first “I love you” through SMS! Face the parents, man! Go to their house and introduce yourself. Let them know your intentions. Get along well with the family. Court her friends and be friends with them too. Quit involving yourself in cheap relationships. You’re too old for that.

  It’s time to think like a man and act like one. Level up, dude. Level up!

   

   

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