The Career-Driven Boyfriend And The 4 Things You’ll Encounter

Anthonette Dado

March 8, 2016

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  Love is not always about the affection we feel for each other.
  Before, I consider my boyfriend, who chooses career over love, as my new heart break. That was my mistake. If a man chose to stay in the relationship no matter how busy he is, you must be proud of it. Your man is a goal-setter and looking forward for a better future with you.

  Having a career-driven partner made me realize these things…

  SELDOM TEXT MESSAGES

  I sometimes misunderstood when my boyfriend only sends me a message me once or twice a day. Random things were playing inside my head. Like maybe he doesn’t love me anymore, maybe he’s with someone else, or maybe he almost forgot that I exist.

  But I began to understand that he’s too busy on work and I’m still lucky if he sends an SMS every morning and before he falls asleep. It makes me feel special in a way that I’m the first and last thing that comes up in his mind.

  Instead of demanding, I just send him loving reminders, but not so clingy messages, hoping that it might give him an additional inspiration to make his work lighter.

  LESS FIGHTS MORE UNDERSTANDING

  Loving a man with career direction taught me to avoid putting up a fight. We should be each other’s comfort zone and not to inflame stress to each other. We must always be here to cheer each other up.

  I’m blessed to have a boyfriend who is patient enough to ignore my tantrums. Most of the time, arguing with your partner, who’s physically and mentally tired, might lead to break up. So instead of arguing with him, I’m starting our conversation on asking how his day was. I try to find out if something’s bothering him and offer whatever help I can do. This is the only thing that I can give. After all, he’s doing this for us.

  THE BUSY CALENDAR

  When your partner is career oriented, you must be patient in waiting when will your free schedules meet halfway.

  Before, I usually demand to be at least part of my boyfriends’ weekend. But then I realized that he has his own immediate family and social life. His world doesn’t just revolve around me. I learned to give way. It proved me that being selfish is not an option.

  NOT SO HIGH SCHOOL TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP

  Having him in my life made a successful graduate of high school type of relationships. I saw myself in a serious type of relationship. I stopped this childish habit of always wanting him with me because it is not healthy. Instead, he became my inspiration. I focused on my career too and started to strive harder to build more accomplishments as what my partner does.

  Having a career oriented boyfriend is somehow a struggle but we can manage. It made me mature and maturity comes from experience.

  I realized that our absence to each other because of goals will make us prepared for the future.

  How strong you are will always depend on how you handle things, time, and love. By the way, you need a pocket, jar, bag, and sack filled with TRUST.

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