BEDROOM STORIES: Sex And Its Consequences

Nami16

June 17, 2016

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  People say sex is bad for you. “Don’t have sex until you get married.” I don’t think I’m that girl who can actually wait for marriage just to have sex. I don’t believe too that my virginity is the best gift that I could give my husband during our first night as a married couple. That’s all crap. If he’s not a virgin, then he has no right to demand that from me. However, my beliefs made a drastic turn when I got pregnant out of wedlock. I knew the father of my baby. We were in love back then, but our love was not enough for us to get married. Honestly, the baby was a mistake, but we also knew then that getting married just because I got knocked up will be the biggest mistake we’ll be committing. I was 15 when I lost my virginity. My boyfriend was a little bit older than me and he was moving away for college. We were so in love then that we thought that having sex will keep us closer. I was too excited and carefree to actually think of the consequences of our actions. His parents were always out of the country, and we took this opportunity to have sex at their house. I remember then that every time I go home after having sex, I was always hungry. I think even then my mom knew that I was sexually active, maybe she was afraid to confront me. I found out that I was pregnant during my first year in college. I cried, blamed the world, my boyfriend for not pulling out on time, and the condom that was just hanging around in his wallet but refused to use. It was as if the universe was playing tricks on us. Because when I started college, me and my ex barely had time to see each other. So when I got pregnant, we were so surprised because it was sort of a make-up-sex kind of thing. And telling both our parents was a nightmare. My mom almost had a heart attack and my dad couldn’t look me straight in the eye for months. I took a leave of absence from school. Being pregnant is one thing but raising a baby at 17 is another. I didn’t had a yaya, because my mom said if I’m too eager to have sex, I should be able to face the consequences of my actions. Though I knew they were making an effort in helping me with the baby, even the family of my ex, it was still m–all me. It was also during this period that I realized that I’m losing interest with the father of my baby. Not because I don’t love him anymore but I was just too exhausted with everything. He understood it and he was too was getting burnt out. He was trying to provide for us while studying. He took odd jobs, much to the dismay of his parents, but they let him because he needed to be responsible. At the end of the day, we both admitted that we were not ready. We were stupid for being reckless. My baby is now 3 years old and I’m also back in school. I’m grateful that my parents never kicked me out of their lives. Happy that my ex still visits our baby and continue to provide for her. There is no plan of reconciliation. We are just happy that our lives are slowly getting back on track. We need to grow up, not just for our sake but for our baby as well.

   

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