4 Things I Learned From Loving A F*ck Boy

Adi Miguel

July 12, 2016

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  Getting in a relationship with a f*ck boy might be one of your greatest regrets in life. But let’s be honest, you didn’t see that he’ll be one of your regrets until you have noticed that you’re actually in love with a fuck boy. You just thought that whatever you’re doing is normal and couples go through it. You thought that it’s how love goes. But you didn’t think that he was f*ck boy because in your heart, love is always greater.

  And these fuck boys taught us something that we’ll discover after we’ve moved on and become a better person…

  

  1. I learned that sex does not really make relationships stronger.

  No, it doesn’t. Because what makes you stronger is the love that you have for each other. This is where “love will keep us alive” gets in.

  He’s leaving you just because you don’t want to be f*cked after two weeks and a half of being with each other. That’s not love. You’re dealing with a man who is full of lust and so thirsty of getting under the sheets.

  No girl in this entire universe deserves that. If you do not want to have sex that’s totally okay. Because love is not justified by sex. Love is not all about kissing and hugging. Yes, you need physical contact but it doesn’t make you stronger. Your acceptance of each other no matter what is what will make your relationship stronger.

  Sex is a mutual decision that is and should be done with love. Not lust.

  Brush off the thought that sex is needed to strengthen relationships.

  

  2. I learned that you should not fall in love with touch.

  He’s too clingy. He’s giving you all the attention that you need. All the kisses that you think that you deserve. All the hugs that you want to feel. But it doesn’t really define love.

  Just because he satisfies your physical needs doesn’t mean he’s in capable of satisfying the emotional ones. You don’t need someone who’ll just accept your dramas and PMS. You don’t need someone who’ll just comfort you. You need someone who will tell you straight that you’re too much of a drama queen and will help you become a better woman. You need someone who won’t just listen but is willing to take the journey of becoming better with you.

  True love encourages you to become better.

  

  3. I learned that love is giving more than taking.

  When you’re with a fuck boy you’ll be immune with this line: “I think we’re done if you won’t give what I want.”

  Love makes you compromise but not with the things that will destroy you. Not with the things that you’re not happy to compromise. Love doesn’t force you to have sex just because the person you love will leave you. Love doesn’t work that way.

  The next time you’ll encounter this line, you’re with a fuck boy. Do not waste your time. These men are takers. But they are not willing to compromise for you. They are not willing to use up their energy to watch a Nicholas Sparks movie with you. They are not willing wear couple shirts with you.

  You don’t deserve a fuck boy.

  

  4. I learned that insecurity does not belong in love.

  Love should always make you beautiful. It should make you feel that you are wanted, that you are pursued. You don’t deserve a guy who makes you feel that you are scarred. You don’t need a guy who will make you feel that he just needed you for his sexual needs. You don’t need a guy who’ll make you doubt your beauty.

  You don’t need a fuck boy.

  Dear woman,

  You won’t know that you’re with a fuck boy because love will come first. And if ever you’re loving one, we’re not judging you. We just want you to know that you do not deserve someone who looks at you with no respect. You just don’t really deserve someone who is very selfish and treats sex as if it’s the air he breathes.

  Dear f*ck boys,

  Close your eyes. Imagine your future daughter loving someone like you. It sucks, right?

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