Always be grateful for a good wife

March 4, 2019

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  Hi DJ Chloe!

  I wanted to share to you my most shameful experience, but I consider this as my biggest BLESSING IN DISGUISE. I hope this will serve as warning, too, to some guys out there na sa una excited kang gawin (ego tripping) but you will never know what kind of girl you’ve encountered. I am a married guy for more than two decades (25 years) with two grown up kids. Ever since I was still single, modesty aside I collected women. When I met my wife, I finally decided to settle. Although before I met her, marriage is not in my vocabulary. I can say that I have a beautiful marriage life with an accomplished wife and two talented and achiever kids. Some are looking up to our marriage life. Despite that fact I was able to have several female officemates as “friends with benefits.” Fresh grad, separated with kids, and a widow with kids. My latest promiscuity was with the widow with two kids. This widow joined our company after two (2) months of her husband’s death. On her first month, happened to be her birth month, too and since she’s just new, me and some officemate had dinner for her birthday (I was the one who paid the bill). After our dinner she started texting and calling me to confide her emotional and financial struggle as a widow with two very young kids (youngest is two years old). On her second month the calling and texting was more frequent than the first month that even on a very late night, she’s calling me. On the third month (June), her actions toward me was sending message of getting more close to me. I talked to her for several times that she should keep her distance from me since I am very much married. Sadyang matigas ulo niya. She’s doing things just to be close to me or have the chance to call me. Eventually on her 5^th month we are now visiting motel. On our first time I’ve noticed that she is very casual of the things we did, and I asked her if it was her first time, and I was surprised when she told me that she’s used in staying in a motel. I thought the first incident will be our first and last, but it was not. Even during our first motel visit, it is very clear in my mind that there’s no string attached. It was only my ego para bang sobrang nakakalalaki ka knowing her husband was my officemate before he died and with his illnesses so I can say that sexually they are not active and ako ang pumuno sa pagangailangan niya. Instead of being discreet of what we are doing since, she was so jealous with some of our female officemate, she was the one spreading the news. Maybe it is her way of telling those girls to stay away from me since we are now sexually connected. She was so possessive, and she wanted to know all the details of my whereabout which I was not happy. Several times I asked her “mag ano ba tayo? Bakit kung umasta ka talo mo pa asawa ko?” I just want to send her the message that we are just friends with benefits. She will not answer me but still she keeps on doing what she is doing (acting like she is my mistress). She failed to notice that I never exerted effort or time for her. With her attitude, they create worry in me. It seems that I will have hard time getting rid of her. Despite the fact I told her not to bother me (no text,  and call) if I am with my family, one Sunday she texted me. I decided to let my phone open with her message hoping that my wife will read it. I succeeded with my plan, my wife was able to take notice of the said message. She knows the widow since my wife was with me during the wake and burial of the widow’s husband since he is my officemate. I was asked by my wife, I admitted right way (I’ve done that with all my previous sexmates). My wife called the widow and informed her that she’s now aware of everything. The widow promised to keep her distance from me. After that Sunday discovery I never talked to her nor texted her. After seven months the widow sent gift to me, seems she wanted to get close again to me. I told this thing to my wife. With this incident my wife is afraid that there might be second chance again. My wife has hit bottom rock and told me that I need to seek professional help. She’s been talking that thing to me even during our early marriage life (due to several friends-with-benefits incident even in my previous company. The four recent were from my present company). Never I consider them my mistresses since modesty aside it’s them who made the first move and they know I am married. My wife told me that if I will not seek professional help, she will leave me. The word “she will leave me” brings chilling effect to me since this is the first time she told me and knowing our kids are all grown up she can easily do it. Finally, after 25 years, I agreed to her. She was with me all throughout my therapy. In our therapy sessions the Doctor was able to identify the source of my abnormality (I enjoyed having sex with different women since lapitin naman ako I have no difficulty leaving them after several months except with this widow who was the one spreading the news).

  Lahat sila binibigyan ko ng time frame on when to get rid from them. The last incident I consider it as a BLESSING IN DISGUISE since my life turned 360 degrees. I cannot live a normal life without my wife beside me. She’s my everything since I am a spoiled husband. Despite my abnormality she did not gave up on me and never my kids learned about my abnormality. Now I have the purest heart and thoughts. I became more dedicated in our religious belief because I’ve come to realize how I am love by God and my family. God allowed me to go to the things for me to be humble and see and appreciate all the blessings I have. Open communication between husband and wife is very important. I am very lucky having a wife with wide understanding and persistent to bring out the best in me. With our therapy sessions, we’ve learned that some guys who fall stray are nor bad, there are some who are just a victim of their childhood trauma. Hope if there are some guys who can read this experiencing sexual fantasy just like me, to have the courage to talked to your wife or heed to your wife to seek a professional help. Thank you.

  PS. Na KARMA AKO. Nakatagpo ng widow which she doesn’t know the word discreet and delicadeza. Sad that kailangan ko pang makarma to heed to my wife.

  Hi Sir,

  Grabe, ipagpapatayo ko ng monumento ang asawa mo po. I hope you get all the help you need and I do hope na since aware ka na, eh hindi mo naman ito gamiting reason sakaling “matukso” ka na naman in the future. I also cannot blame you eh, there are a looot of women willing to be a partner in crime. One reason daw, daw ha, daw…why men womanize is that there are things they want to do, explore kumbaga but they can’t do it with their wives. Go, figure. Now that all is well and you’re having the treatment that you need, may you always anchor yourself in Him who is merciful and forgiving. We are blessed to have a God who doesn’t look at our transgressions and do not punish us as we deserve, dahil kung hindi mamamatay talaga tayo. For the wages of sin is death. Love your wife, you do not at all deserve her, but you were blessed with a good one, and she is God’s gift to you, maswerte ka ‘di ka natapat sa babaeng perwisyo sa buhay.

  

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