Chloe’s Inbox – Find the courage to leave a wrong story

January 1, 2020

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I met this guy thru a dating app. More than five (5) months kaming nag-uusap. Sobrang bait, sweet, and caring niya. Hanggang inaya niya ako makipagmeet. Nagkita kami. Una, coffee, dinner, and movies kami. Hanggang umabot na may nangyari na sa’min thrice. Nag-overnight na kami. Every two (2) weeks nagkikita kami. Na-fall na rin ako sa kanya. But something happened. Kahapon, I was checking my Facebook then may isa akong friend na may common friend nu’ng guy ko na ka-work niya. Chineck ko ‘yung Facebook nu’ng ka-work ni guy. Then nag-appear ‘yung guy na ‘yun na friends sila at I was shocked kasi ‘yung guy na na-meet ko sa dating app is married na pala. Na-shock na lang ako. Kasi may plan na kami magkita after Christmas. He’s working here in Manila at taga dito rin ako. And he’s family is living somewhere in province. I know may fault din ako. Kasi hindi ko siya tinanong kung single siya. Nag-assume ako since nasa dating app siya. Willing akong maglet go. Pero ang hirap kasi emotionally invested na kami. Until now, nagmessage pa rin siya sa’kin saying sweet words at napapansin niya na umiiwas na ‘ko. Should I tell him na alam ko na lahat? Please ‘wag nyo po ako husgahan. Ayoko rin naman makasira ng ibang pamilya. Hindi ko lang talaga alam na ginawa na niya pala akong kabet.

  Ms. Nag-assume

  Hi Ms. Nag-assume,

  Since you already know that you are in the wrong story and you have the power to end it, then end it. It’s up to you if you want to tell him the truth, or not. If you are sure that he is married, then let go, since willing ka naman maglet go. Baka kasi ‘pag sinabi mo pa kung ano ang nalaman mo, eh magkaroon pa siya ng pagkakataon na magsinungaling sa’yo at bolahin ka pa. Wala rin namang masama if you let him know what you know. Ask him why he is in the dating app. Or better yet, ask him if he was ever married. If magdeny, show him your facts.

  

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