Chloe’s Inbox – Where there is no trust, there is no love

September 11, 2019

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  DJ Chloe, is it possible for us to love someone but not trust them?

  My boyfriend and I have been together for five (5) years already pero hanggang ngayon, I still get jealous and paranoid even if he never gave me a reason to doubt him. It’s just me and my trust issue, DJ Chloe. My dad left us for another girl and my ex-boyfriends did the same thing to me. Aware naman ako na ginagawa niya ang lahat para hindi ako magduda pero nitong nakaraang away namin, I was taken aback when he threatened na gawin na lang para sulit naman ang paghihinala ko. Sinusubukan ko namang lawakan ang pang-unawa ko pero my mind seems to find a way to think about the worst things. Nagseselos at naghihinala ako sa takot kong mapunta siya sa iba pero mukhang ito rin ang maging rason para mapagod at mawala siya sa’kin. I’m sorry, DJ Chloe if I sound as if I’m not in the right mind but I really do not know how do I get over with my issue. Please tell me your thoughts.

  Anne

  Hi Ann ,

  “DJ Chloe, is it possible for us to love someone but not trust them?” Uy!! Ang daming ganito—mahal daw nila pero lagi silang duda.

  So, I guess yes, ‘yun nga lang, you can’t truly love someone if you don’t trust them enough. At some point you have to try trusting the person otherwise you’ll be miserable. And if you’re miserable, why love and be in a relationship, ‘di ba?

  But then again, paano mo nga naman pagkakatiwalaan ‘yan, maliit ka pa lang sinira na ng taong importante sa buhay mo ang tiwala mo.

  If you can afford it, see a psychiatrist, it doesn’t mean may sira ka, okay? They help us process things we can’t process on our own. That’s a mental issue, my dear. And if you don’t address it. Do you think you will be able to handle or even have a healthy relationship?

  

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