Chloe’s Inbox – Solo walk will make you tougher

August 20, 2019

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m an avid listener and I really love when you are the airing DJ. You can call Dane. My problem is not about love, but family. I don’t know why but my mom keeps on saying na umalis na ako sa bahay kasama mga kapatid ko at gusto niya mag-isa lang siya. Although nagbibigay rin naman ako more than half of my salary, kinsenas-katapusan, tumutulong sa bahay since panganay ako. And she always nags at me na dapat mag-asawa ako para makaipon at mapaayos bahay namin. Ayaw ko naman mag-asawa because I’m afraid I might be in a broken family like us. That’s why kahit magboyfriend ayaw ko pa although I’m turning 27 na this year. Then she keeps saying na mabuti pa pamangkin niya nagpagawa na ng bahay, teacher naman sa public school ‘yun. And ‘yung neighbor namin na nag-asawa ng koreano na nagpagawa na rin ng bahay. Hindi ko naman kaya ‘yun. Do you think ako ang mali? Do you think I need to settle down para matulungan sila or mangupahan na lang para makaiwas sa mom ko? Hoping to have an advice. Thank you so much and more power. Wishing na ma-air ang problem kong ito.

  Hi Dane!

  Menopause problems siguro ng nanay mo?

  Why not give her what she wants? Why not leave her alone? Para naman on your end, matuto ka ring mamuhay mag-isa?

  Your mom probably has frustrations and ang paniniwala niya siguro ay dapat magsulit kayo sa kanya by way of having your house fixed. I don’t know.

  But I would never force my kids to get married just because—but well that’s me.

  Settle down only if you already found the one to settle down with.

  Hindi naman financial plans ang mga lalaki na sasagutin nila ang renovation ng ancestral house niya para pakasalan sila.

  If you can manage on your own sa pagsisikap mo na mapaayos ang bahay niyo… well that’s good.

  

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