Don’t make things complicated for you and your family

April 12, 2019

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  I’m Rica. Good morning, DJ Chloe.

  Meron sana ako i-share/question/advice. Naguguluhan na kasi ako. Married ako with a 15-year-old daughter. I have smooth life, very understanding ang husband ko and don’t have problem sa house. Siya lahat ang bahala from food, house work, and don’t share anything sa gastusin. Darating na lang ako from work, kakain, matutulog, then work again the following day. My problem started sa work. Meron akong nakasama sa work, a married guy. Three times a week lang siya nasa office because field siya nakaassign. Mas younger sa akin. Lagi siya nagte-text sa akin, have friendly exchanges everyday ‘til nahuli siya ng wife niya, and because of that napilitan siyang magresign dahil naging magulo situation nila. May time pa na tumawag wife niya sa office just to tell our boss na may something daw kami. Kahit gano’n ang nangyari we still communicate and lagi niya sinasabi na meron daw siyang feelings sa akin. Every time na lalayo ako, he will tell na friends lang daw. Until now it’s more than a year, we still communicate. Twice kaming nagkita, ‘yung isa hi and hello lang. Then ‘yung second time he waited sa office then we ate sa resto. Almost five (5) hours kaming magkasama, talking, eating the whole time. And he’s planning if when ulit kami magkikita. Bago kami naghiwalay hi-nug niya ‘ zko and kiss sa cheek and hand. And he said, ‘yun daw ang feelings niya kaya niya ginawa. After noon, inisip ko na may mali. Lumayo ako, I asked for space, no communication for a while, nakakahiya man but I felt something for him kahit alam kong mali. Now, back to old times. Everyday text, checking on me until matulog, he said his goodnight. I’m thinking of it as purely friendship or need ko ng umiwas/lumayo? Hindi niya alam that I felt something na for him because natatakot akong sabihin sa kanya. Baka lalo siyang magpursige but lagi niyang ask kung ano feelings ko sa kanya, still close friend ba or nagchange na if may feelings na ‘ko sa kanya and bakit ako biglang nawala after namin nagkita? From the day na malaman ng wife niya, on the rocks na ‘yung relationship nila and hindi naniniwala ‘yung wife niya na we don’t communicate/relationship. Meron nga pala siyang exclusive cellhpne na he’s using only for me. Pasensya na po if masyado mahaba, I’m thinking kasi if masyado lang akong old fashioned/madumi isip or need ko na talagang dumistansya? Thank you, DJ Chloe for your time reading my letter.

  Hi Rica,

  Sabi mo, “Married ako with a 15 year-old daughter. I have smooth life, very understanding ang husband ko and don’t have problem sa house. Siya lahat ang bahala from food, house work, and don’t share anything sa gastusin. Darating na lang ako from work, kakain, matutulog, then work again the following day.”

  Do you actually know how BLESSED you are? How I wish naranasan ko rin ‘to o maranasan ko. ‘Yung wala akong iisiping bayarin, na pwede akong magpahinga anytime or if mawalan man ako ng work okay lang kasi I have someone who can take care of me in the real sense of the word. Ang swerte mo, ang daming babae kanda kuba na sa trabaho, pag-uwi trabaho pa sa bahay, alaga ng anak. Tapos here you are, problem-ing something that’s not even supposed to be your problem! You shouldn’t be asking me anymore because the answer is obvious. You are very much married. If there is a “close friend” waiting for you it should be your husband. Hindi mo ito dapat pino-porblema ni binibigyan ng panahon. Tigil mo na ‘to, ma’am. Hindi maganda pag-ineskandalo ka ng asawa niyan and I believe she is capable of doing it. Napakaswerte mo sa asawa mo at alagang-alaga ka, ni hindi ka binibigyan ng problema.

  

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