The Father Of My Child Left Me Just Like That And Now He’s Coming Back

March 16, 2017

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  Good pm, DJ Chloe!

  I’m an avid listener of your show. Just call me Aubrey. I am Pahide identity. I would just ask for advice. I’m a single mom. 24 years old from Taguig. Six months to please my baby girl. Stories po ‘yung story of my life. With ex-boyfriend that I am also father of my baby and we naglast relationship of seven years. Typical scenes in magjowa, on and off. Four times that we broke over the seven years that’s it. LDR was, until last in 2015 I decided that we magbaby and create a family home so she could come here from abroad. Four years I was there. From 2011 nagkawork then last October 2015 that she was here, stay-in only. Within NCR lang din. Then okay to work with him, I agreed to stay in there because he needed to earn that endo because I was at work. So he must have work and then work with that I also, after I can endo November 2015 but I’m pregnant so she decided to just magwowork sa’min two. Then while they, the start-in nagstay he suddenly varies nak-up with stories that he kawork me that he had a wife and three children very close to him. Actually, the woman was the way to make them become close. “He did, but it kept me in the last few months later he suddenly drifted to Mutagenicity strife that we ‘yung girl. Because others’ yung closeness they even re-work their luck is been rumors in relation to them. January last year varied and really was February, four months I preggy, who broke up with me. The issue is how my family problems, tired as he was in trouble with his family something like that. I have a hunch that 3rd party with him, I said ‘but that he rejected me and blamed everyone else. I see nothing wrong eh, I’ve done or we fought to make him my son and I to think that I’m pregnant. ‘Di niya’ yun ki-nonsider just broke up with him. I begged, I’m clueless at all sure what is wrong and I’m the one to blame him. After two months nun I’m depressed and stressed. Four to six months tyan I brought those BGAT that ‘it is not know my parents are going through our baby. Neither is also a hint how we have baby and so on. Those breakup demanded he is happy and sad moments, but it was too child support he would continue anyway. And I naconfirm May 2016 3rd party po sa female involved kawork that he is talking about. But excessive resentment and not coping I’m stress and depression in conjunction with pkikipagbreak he got tired and I also appeal, six months tyan I said that I am in my parents’ situation. I took my family so much I had also the courage to let go that I’m just resistant. Although I thought he was the baby and we still pregnant I am not the case. Suffered and that he left us. A few months later, he nagpaparamdam. I deleted contacts we two, FB, text, call, all pwedng be communication. Because she knows I home eh. If he really please do something about it. But since I know that those who made prank, maybe not pursued to support him even though I deleted all the communication we would be. I passed those few months until I premature. I contacted her friend to give those numbers I have to talk with us, but I inignore. Because very painful and he did sa’ming mother and my family. Even in respect of my family and especially my son, ‘he gave. Okay if I would just simply g * n * g * he charges with them, especially my son. ‘I am he ignored even financial short we did not ask me to help him. To those who give me nagpaparamdam him and December last year he pleaded that I give him a chance to be father to my child and do all his shortcomings, even in children who are just. But I stony heart. Concentrated anger and resentment I feel so just picture him, hear his name, and he even insinuate. Nagf flashback po eh. I now very difficult to forgive. Right now I see I forgive him. Lengthy procedures, maybe. I do not know when and if you should do because I destroyed my whole being, my life and my daughter’s life. In seven years, four chances I gave four times that he broke up with me and I thought this time we magkakababy, all would be well. Become more hectic and involved more po ‘yung she returned. Actually, old woman po ‘yung issue but it could not nambababae, nagf flirt Thanks but no one ever takes. But this time the woman po ‘yung approach, especially mgksama they always have to work so he pinatulan too maybe. “I just received a family that the woman, married, with three children aged kung po him four years kidding. 24 I was 28. I graduated po ‘I four years. Maid naman po ako dun son na’min I’m taking it. ‘Cause I can not imagine what those missing and wrong. I admit I’m offer her support because I did not do well he eeffort. Once I removed those contacts did not do well. I want to work it all out. Not concentrated message, text, call only. He faced it and kami yung made his foolishness. She must pay, there be forgiven him. Show him here, she knows our house. Annoying only those such men, as very worthless, no b * y * g, no heart, and conscience and mercy even to kids. ‘I learned to be contented, to be able to cheat. Given that everyone else is looking. ‘I still can not forgive him. Although I’m okay unlike before. So long as stress and pagmumukmok but okay na ‘ko. Not at least fully recovered and it does not like that miserable.
  I was okay, since I came out my baby. Him just round the world and I was just thinking to be positive and good vibes and especially the blessed life we mother and family. I just wanted to seek advice what I should do. Right now I’m not yet ready to support even just for baby still fresh because all my memories. Which had God that someday everyone! The Lord just please take care of them. Actually, I think that ‘do not just hint at it because for me he is dead. So okay we’ll just kaht me my son because I did it survive those darkest part of my life with him. Please give me words of wisdom. I know time heals all wounds. At the right time when to heal all but impossible for now. ‘I’ve never seen him pass but I trust God! Now we are happy that my child we lng with my family and now I’m just nagpapakabsuy school makapagtake for the LET exam this year and hopefully pass to teach that to my son’s future. God Bless. I’m always listening to the advices you, DJ Chloe. I could read you ‘and to give me advice. I know I’m better be advised you. In terms of financially kailngan I tlaaga iniinsist him but I just do not want to accept because I hate masumbat with him and just so easy ‘willingness to support uung after all he did. Even with baby pra just have not given all he needs to do it all for him. Start up pregnant I now six months that he no allowances. Continue straight I just po ung nakakatempt to grab those who offer financially. Nandun still too hatred and pain of what happened before. Not because I am so really even pity that I am also spending sa’min mom mother since we parted lips tightened h * y * p that’s it so please read this letter. Thanks and God bless you!

  Hi Aubrey,

  Receive given, give him your bank account number and tell him to deposit the money there. If he ever puts something in there, then you will know he is sincere, if not, then maybe just do not have the money, you may give him ‘if there is.

  If he asks to see his child, tell him can do so if he visits the kid in your house, it’s up to him to gather all his courage to face all of you. At least, on your part, you can say you do not have pinagdamot.

  Cant visit but now cant borrow a baby or small child you have, then you prepare you.

  Accept the support not only because you need it badly, but because it is the child’s right to receive support from his father. Accepting it does not mean you give him the right to make the guilt, HIS OBLIGATION ‘YUN. He has no right to rebuke every cent he will give his own son.

  At least, with the initiative even in words, you just see the work, giving you an account number to see whether it really will, if not, hawshaw that. Typical concentrated breath just know.

  Now you have probably learned that the only thing that’s constant after a heartbreak is your family. End of study and promote the child.

  Okay angry but do not let you eat you angry. If you give, give. If not, can cope alone, you always have a choice, you can always demand for support legally. Know your rights.

  Enough of the questions as to why and why and why? He did what he did.

  You are now a mother, it’s a new chapter in your life that you have to face and go through. Finished love me, he broke. You do well you life for your child. The sweetest revenge is successfully moving on with your life.

  

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