I Forgot “Me” When I Started Loving “You”

June 15, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Please don’t mention my name. Gusto ko lang po humingi ng advice. We’ve been married for five years. Mabuting tao po ang husband ko at never kami nagkaroon ng malaking issue. Last year, he had an affair and left me. Pero never kami nawalan ng communication kasi ayaw niya tuluyan na hindi ako makausap. Pero I set my mind na tuluyan ng magmove on. Hindi na ako nakikipagcommunicate at blinock ko siya sa lahat. Bumalik siya recently at alam ko and ramdam ko bilang asawa niya na gusto niya na magsimula kami ulit. Pero he still left me after almost a month. Sobrang sakit na naman kasi nagsisimula na naman ako sa phase ng pagmomove on. I still pray for him na maenlighten siya at gawin ang tama. Mahal na mahal ko parin po siya. Ang tanging gusto ko lang naman is bumalik ang dating siya na mabuting tao. Is it the correct thing to do? Is it ok to hope na magbabago siya?

  Trisha

  Trisha,

  You must really love your husband for still being there despite of how horrible he treats you. He may not punch you in the face or abuse you verbally. But what he’s doing to your emotions–playing with it and taking you for granted–is an injury that will take years to heal.

  You are a person who deserves to be loved because you have so much love to give.

  But you have to understand that a mistake repeated more than once is a decision.

  Once you have come to accept the fact na hindi na magbabago ang asawa mo at naugatan na ang ganyang gawain niya, that’s the time you will be able to free yourself from him.

  Please stop giving him an opportunity to repeatedly hurt you.

  Once and for all, PALAYAIN mo na siya. Kasi alam mo, ang taong mahal kang talaga hindi ka makukuhang ipagpalit at iwanan ng dahil sa iba.

  

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