He’s Just Being Nice

March 8, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  First of all, I would like to congratulate you. Sobrang dami niyong fans, almost everywhere I go ay radio station niyo ang pinakikinggan. And I started to be your fan when I personally saw you hosting my niece’s debut. Sa totoo lang, DJ Chloe, I’m having second thoughts of writing you kaya lang I think it is best para malaman ko din if tama ba ‘tong nrramdaman ko at para malaman ko din ang best advice po. Matagal ko na rin kasing dala-dala ‘to at medyo nahihirapan na din ako. Anyway, I’m 40 years old, single, mom, although I don’t look 40 po. I work as a site coordinator. DJ Chloe, in being single/separated for six years ngayon lang ako humanga ulit sa isang guy. He is my co-worker actually, and 10 years younger. I was attracted siguro dahil he’s so responsible, hardworking, and I can say na he is gwapo at mabait. Naging center kami ng tuksuhan s awork. Maybe because matagal na ‘kong walang karelasyon at siya naman ay single. Naging close kami lately dahil halos buong love story at hugot niya sa mga ex niya eh nai-kwento na niya sa akin. Gusto ko syia DJ Chloe. Pero ayokong maging rebound at ‘yung age gap namin so complicated. Pinipilit kong iwasan syia at pigilin ‘yung feelings ko pero eto siya parang nananadyang lumalapit at nakikipagbiruan pa. DJ Chloe, please tell me what to do. Ayokong umasa at ayoko rin masaktan ulit. Pero iniisip ko, paano if he feels the same way tapos ako naman ang nagreject? Masakit din na sisisihin ko ang sarili ko na nandyan na pala ‘yung tama para sa akin pero ako ang takot na sumubok. Please, I need your advice badly. And can you please play the song of Ms. Krissa “Ba’t Di Ko Ba Nasabi”. Sobrang nasasapul ako every time na naririnig ko ang kantang ‘to. Thank you so much for reading my message. God bless.

  Ms. Imperfect

  Hi Ms. Imperfect,

  Twice ko binasa ang letter mo. There was never a mention of him telling you about how and what he feels for you, am I right?

  Ang sabi mo lang nagco-confide siya sa’yo, close kayo to the point na tinutukso na kayo at parang nananadya siya na parating lumalapit sa’yo habang ikaw ay umiiwas, am I correct?
  Girl, all you have are assumptions, nothing concrete. Mahirap ‘yan, sis. Baka pa-fall, baka paasa, ikaw naman assuming.

  Unless he tells you, unless he makes known to you what his intentions are, then and only then can you also tell him what and how you feel about him.

  For now, hold your horses, dear. You’re 40, you should know better.

  

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