If You Just Really Can’t

January 26, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I know you know the guy I loved all the way from Canada. His name is Jason. I am Mel, his ex-girlfriend here in the Philippines.

  Pumunta po si Jason sa Philippines for a vacation at naguluhan po siya sa mga naging revelations sa pagkatao ko. May boyfriend po ako bago kami na-in love ni Jason sa isa’t-isa. Pero alam niya po ‘yun at sinabi niyang maghihintay siya para sa right moment namin. Alam niya pong hindi ako masaya sa boy friend ko. Nu’ng dumating po siya dito nasabi niya po sa family ko ang tungkol sa amin. Ang mali ko po hindi po alam ng family ko ang real score between me and my boyfriend. So nagalit po sila sa akin kasi nag two-time daw po ako. Kaya sinabihan nila si Jason na hindi ako ang right girl para sa kanya kasi wala daw akong good education at good status in life. And Jason came from a rich family, pa’no daw ako maipagmamalaki ni Jason.

  He started to think that time. Sabi niya, bakit daw ganun ang sinasabi sa kanya ng pamilya ko, puro against sa’kin. Alam niya ang buong pagkatao ko pero nagpatalo pa rin siya at pinaniwalaan ang pamilya ko. Kasi hindi naman daw po sila ibang tao para hindi niya panilawaan. Tama naman po siya. Ang sa akin lang, hindi naman po lahat ng nangyayari sa buhay ko ay alam ng family ko. So kung hinuhusgahan nila ako sana hindi siya naniwala kasi alam naman niya ang lahat.

  Then may nangyari pa po. Sabi sa’kin ni Jason kung talagang mahal ko siya harapin ko daw po ang family ko. Nagpunta po ako para harapin siya at ang pamilya ko. Kaso sabi po ng pinsan ko para saan pa daw, sinabi na din daw ni Jason sa family ko na tinapos na po niya ang about sa’min. Ang point po ng pinsan ko, para sa’n pa daw po ang gagawin ko, lalabas lang daw po na pinipilit ko ang sarili ko eh ayaw na nga po ni Jason sa’kin.

  Ang ending po nagalit din po ako sa kanya at nakapagpost sa group chat namin ng ‘di maganda na nakita niya po at lalo niyang kinagalit. I just proved that my family was right in everything they said.

  Lately, I thought that what I did was wrong and the very reason why we broke up. I wanted to explain my side but I don’t know how because he has made up that I cheated on him.

   

  Actually, hindi ko po siya pinapapunta kasi plano na po talaga nila ng tito niya na magbakasyon dito. Mas nagpursige lang po siya dahil ko. At first, we were just friends on chat and eventually we fell in love with each other even if I’m in a relationship. Ang mali ko po hinayaan ko kasi mahal ko na din siya. But he said he will wait until I am free.

  My family didn’t give us chance to talk. Kaya po lalong gumulo. Sana DJ Chloe pag nakausap niyo siya paki sabi pong sorry. Hindi ko po siya niloko. Gusto ko pong maging maayos kaming dawala dahil minahal ko po talaga siya. Salamat po.

  Dear Mel,

  I was actually wondering why the poor guy didn’t come and visit me at the station anymore. But then I thought maybe you guys are busy with each other and my hopes were really high for both of you. You never mentioned, nor did he mention, that you are committed to someone else. P’wedeng pagalitan kita? Bakit mo naman ipinasubo ‘yung tao na pumunta pa ng Pilipinas para lang mapahiya? You know what I think, masyado kang magsiguro. You’re committed, but you like him. You led him on so he came over to meet you; only to be disappointed. Neng, walang right moment kasi may boyfriend ka. The right moment is kapag hiwalay ka na or hiniwalayan mo si boyfriend at pinili mo siya. Anyways, nangyari na and things happened for certain reasons. I can’t blame your family. Your relationship with your boyfriend is probably deep already and they’re thinking you’ll end up with him. You didn’t also give them a heads up na may bisita kang foreigner. Next time if you happen to have second thoughts again, choose the second one. Because no one will catch your fancy if you are really into your boyfriend. And give up your boyfriend next time, he doesn’t deserve someone who’s having second thoughts about him.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

   

   

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