In love with someone younger than I am

November 9, 2018

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I am an avid reader here and a loyal listener of 96.3 Easy Rock. Please call me Ms. SP. I am a solo parent, never married and I am almost 40 years old. Six (6) years ago, my ex left when he found out that I was pregnant with his child — even denied it as his, we were together for nine (9) years; hence me an SP. Been single since then. But here is where it gets complicated. Most suitors I had after having my kid are super young. All of them are in their 20s. Of course, my confidence level skyrocketed, but it always dawns on me that they are way too young for me. Sometimes, I hope na the movie “Glorious” can be real. Before naman, hindi ako affected masyado ng emotions. Masasabi ko nga na I have a heart made of steel na eh. But when this guy came, he is 15 years younger than me, I got really confused about what I should feel. He is sweet, funny, and we jive, add mo pa na he is consistent. We have never formally talked about how we feel, but we joke about it a lot. Ewan ko baka generational gap na I misinterpret his actions. I dunno. We chat every chance we get, he tells me where he is, what he does, with pics pa, he asks me where I am, what I do, and stuff na I think parang jowa levels ganun. He calls me “ate” in public, which I prefer kasi ayoko ng tsismis pero pagchat or kame na lang dalawa nag-uusap, endearment na. I am torn between being real and being right. I am not sure if I just miss being taken care of, or having someone, or if I am really falling for this guy. Please punch me some sense, DJ Chloe. I would really appreciate it.

  Hugs, Ms. SP

  PS. Please hide my identity.

  Hi Miss SP!

  I can understand where you’re coming from, really. Women and human as we are, we have this need to be loved, taken care of. Your feelings are valid naman and that’s ok to feel that way. But you must also understand that feelings are fleeting. But realities in life are constant. Masyado bang malalim? Hahahaha. What I’m trying to say is, there is only one way to find out…try. But don’t forget to take your BRAIN with you.

  

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