It’s A Guy Thing

January 24, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  Mga one year na po ako nagbabasa ng iba’t-ibang istorya na pinapadala nila sa inyo pati na rin ng mga advice mo sa kanila. Lalo na pagbreaktime ko sa work ito ang libangan ko at natutuwa ako dahil marami kang natutulungan. Just call me AA. Meron po akong isang anak at three years na po kaming nagsasama ng ama niya. Sa three years na ‘yun ni minsan ‘di nya nagawang mambabae pero ang problema ko lang po at ang ayaw na ayaw ko sa kanya sa loob ng three years lagi ko syang nahuhuling may tinitignan na mga seksi at magagandang babae sa Facebook na hindi naman niya kilala na talagang nagsesearch siya ng mga page para tumingin dun.

  Every time na mahuhuli ko siya lagi siyang nagsosorry at sasabihing ‘di na niya uulitin. S’yempre masakit sa’kin ‘yun dahil ang daming beses ko na siyang nakikitang ginagawa ‘yun. Three weeks ago na nahuli ko siya ulit na tumitingin ulit ng ganung litrato, pinagmumura ko siya sa sobrang galit ko sabi ko sa kanya, “bakit kailangan pang paulit-ulit mong ginagawa? Tsaka, bakit?” May kulang ba sa akin kaya ‘di mo mapigilan? Ang sagot niya po sa akin, “nature na namin ‘tong mga lalaki. Pero huwag mong isipin na porket tumitingin ako ng mga ganyan eh hindi na kita mahal. Mahal na mahal ko kayo ng anak mo at kahit kailan ‘yan ang itatak mo sa isip mo. Hinding-hindi ako magloloko dahil takot ako sa karma at baka mamaya ang balik ay sa anak natin.” Ang sa akin lang po minsan para akong napaparanoid pagnagbubukas siya ng Facebook niya kasi baka ganun na naman ‘yung ginagawa niya. Ano pong dapat kong gawin, DJ Chloe? Please hide may identity po. Salamat.

   

  Dear AA,

  I think men are wired to be really like that eh. Hahahaha. Ang iba nga hindi man sa Facebook, pero minsan makikita mo kahit nasa mall. Mahuhuli mo asawa mo or boyfriend mo na napapalingon sa mga babaeng sexy talaga or maganda.

  I have read reasons why they do that. Eto sila:

  “Scientists say one of the most glaring differences between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain.

  Testosterone plays a big role, too.  Guys have six times more of this libido hormone surging through their veins than women do. Columbia University researchers found that testosterone impairs the impulse-control region of the brain.”

  In other words, most guys likely look before they think, hehehe. So what can you do, ate?  Eto naman ang mga na research ko para jan na pwede mong gawin…

  “Avoid making your guy feel like he’s done something wrong.  As tempting as it might be, resist jabbing your elbow in his side, shooting him an icy stare, giving him the silent treatment, or even making snide remarks about the woman he’s admired, saying, “She looks like a slut,” “Those boobs are fake, you know,” or “I guarantee you she bleaches her hair.” All of this screams insecurity and could quickly lead to an unnecessary argument.”

  In short, ‘wag mo na naman daw tratuhing parang criminal, hahahaha! At ‘wag mo ng laitin ang babaeng tinitingnan para ‘di ka magmukhang insecure.

  “Ignore it, since it’s likely fleeting. Men look at attractive women the way we look at pretty butterflies. They catch the male brain’s attention for a second, but then they flit out of his mind.”

  But in your case, sabi mo palagi. So maybe you can just come up with a rule: YOU CAN LOOK , BUT YOU CANNOT TOUCH. J

  “Or better yet, acknowledge and draw attention to it in a playful, loving way. Then, watch how fast he shifts his focus back to you! Above all, remember that your man is with you because he loves you.”

  I don’t really know, ate, how you will get his attention. But definitely, nagging about it won’t help. Try to dig deeper why he is like that.

  (CREDITS: yourtango.com)

  

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