It’s Not My Game!

June 27, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  I have been a fan of your station for so long and I really love all the advice you give. I just want to ask, is it necessary for a guy to marry his girlfriend when they have a child but he doesn’t love his girlfriend anymore? But he promises not to turn his back on his responsibilities for the child’s need?

  Kasi I have a friend and he has a girlfriend they actually have a one year old child and they’re living together, parang nagsasama lang sila para sa bata. The thing is lagi silang nag-aaway and hindi na rin talaga masaya ang relationship nila.

  My friend also like someone else and he doesn’t know what to do anymore. Nahihirapan siya sa sitwasyon dahil ayaw makipaghiwalay ng girlfriend niya sa kanya despite everything na ginawa ng friend kong kausapin siya ng maayos. Me as a girl I understand the side of the girl. Sino ba naman ayaw ng buong pamilya? So I told my friend na ayusin. But my friend insists na kahit anong ayos niya hindi na talaga mababalik ‘yung dati niyang feelings for the girl. Is it necessary ba to marry the mother of his child despite what he feel towards his girlfriend? And should the girlfriend hold on to my friend despite their situation and they are just together for the kid? Thank you. I’ll wait for your advice.

  Miss M

  Dear Miss M,

  I hope you’re not the the “other girl” your friend likes. :)

  Well, there is really no way they can be fixed if there’s another “girl” your friend likes.

  You said they fight a lot, I think it’s normal in a relationship to have fights. Even those who faithfully love each other can’t help having fights pero ang away ng kaibigan mo at ka-live in niya ay dahil sa may ibang gusto na ang lalaki. Kaya talagang araw-araw impyerno na ang pagsasama nila.

  As a friend, you can only watch and give unsolicited advice. But there’s nothing much you can do, really. Especially if you are the other girl. You will have to wait for your turn if this friend of yours will ever have the courage to finally end his relationship with his live-in partner. But it will still be complicated because they have a child. So whether you like it or not, some days, they will be together for the sake of the child. And what are those days? birthday ng bata, school activity ng bata, and who knows what else. So that’s a future issue you have to deal with. As to your question, kailangan niya bang pakasalan? Problema niya na ‘yan, dear. Whether he wants to or not. You’re not in the position to tell him he has to or he doesn’t have to. It’s his life.

  

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