Just Stop It

January 8, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,
  I am 27 years old, a single parent. I got pregnant when I was 18. My dad doesn’t want me to live with my boyfriend. We were too young pa raw para magsama and he still has so many dreams for me. He did not allow us to see each other kaya pinahinto niya ako sa studies ko para lang hindi na kami magkita ng boyfriend ko. Dad forced us to break up. Grounded ako for almost two months.  At first, I tried to fight for our relationship and  disobeyed my dad. I still call my boyfriend and his family secretly. Until my dad has decided to send me here at Manila. I did not say any of my dad’s plan to my boyfriend that is why he did not have a chance to see me before I left our province.

  Things got worst between us since I left. Sobrang nasaktan daw siya na hindi ko man lang siya naipaglaban but still I obeyed everything my dad told me.  After I gave birth, I continued my studies.  My boyfriend and I parted our ways and been in different relationships. We both decided to move on and accept that maybe we’re not meant to be. My Dad never allowed him and his family to see my son. After 3 years, my dad died. I graduated and found a job to support my son and my family.

  DJ Chloe, I still love the father of my son, I tried having relationships pero at the end of the day, siya at siya pa rin ang hinahanap ko. Last November 15, we saw each other again. We talked as if we have never caused any pain sa isa’t isa. Maybe dahil we are grown-ups now. We talked about a lot of things and that including our son. I found out that he is still single and now supporting his family. It is just sad that he never talked about any of his plans about my son or us getting back together. He is a police and I can’t see any reason why he cannot support my son.  Gusto ko pa po mabuo ang pamilya ko, DJ Chloe. It was December 9, when we last talked at dumaan na po ang Christmas and New year, but up until now, I still haven’t heard anything from him.

   

  Miss S

   

  Dear Miss S,

  For some reasons tama ang daddy mo. Ngayon ‘di mo pa nare-realize ‘yan but eventually you will thank him for not letting you marry at a very young age. Unfortunately, it resulted to something you didn’t expect. Nagbago ang feelings ng boyfriend mo for you. A lot of things can happen in five years. It may have caused your boyfriend to change his mind about you but see it’s better that it happened na hindi ka kasal. Otherwise, you will endure the mistakes you both did. Baka hindi ka pa nakatapos o kaya nagkasunod-sunod ang anak niyo. As you’ve said, your boyfriend didn’t make mention of any plans for you and your child, why not ask? You have a child with him. If he doesn’t have plans for you and him maybe he has for his child. For now, I should say that you focus on yourself, your child, and your own family. Yes you’re right, capable na siya sumuporta sa bata. Siguro ‘yun na lang muna ang klaruhin mo. Relationship with him? If a man wants you, nothing can stop him. If not, nothing can change his mind. So give yourself the dignity by not begging.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

   

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