Less Talk, More Action

January 3, 2017

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Allow me to greet you a happy new year. I am hoping that one day you will also feature my story on your wall. Just call me Mommy M, a single mother. I have been the sole provider for my daughter for the last 14 years when her father decided to leave both of us. No support, no hi, not even a hello.

  I tried to ask for a little help from him but it would always be rejected with matching pagmumura pa. So I just decided to carry everything alone. My daughter now is almost 15, she knows her dad, their family, as I never kept anything from her. Sa 14 na pasko sa buhay niya siguro naalala naman siya ng mga lola, lolo, at tita niya dun ng mga two times. Lumalaki na ang anak ko at asthmatic pa siya. Magastos, DJ Chloe.

  Back in April, my daughter asked me if she could ask for an allowance since 15 na daw siya baka pumayag na at magbigay na. Besides baka daw hindi naman ako noon humingi kaya hindi nagbibigay. So I told her go ahead and ask. Sa akin, so she can find out for herself. Baka nga naman pag anak niya na, maantig na siya, hindi pala.

  Ang ending, tumawag sa’kin ang ama at kung ano-anong sinabi. Kesyo naghihirap na daw ba ako at nanghihingi na ang anak ko sa kanya ng “allowance” and that perennial statement na “kung ‘di mo kayang buhayin and bata ibigay mo na lang sa’kin.”

  That was the last straw that broke the camel’s back, DJ Chloe. I kept silent for years and then I get another phone call just because his daughter is now the one reminding him of what’s long overdue? So, I decided to ask a lawyer about this. Kung may karapatan ba ang anak ko, kung dehado nga ba kami ng matagal na panahon.

  To cut the story short, I filed a case, RA 9262. Mabilis pala proseso, I filed a case this year and just two days before Christmas, I received the resolution from the fiscal’s office on my favor.

  That indeed, the fiscal found a probable cause for me to really have a case against him. And that’s deliberately withholding support for 15 long years, which clearly indicates economic deprivation for the child. It is a criminal offense.

  What I am trying to say? That all along what he was doing to us, to his child, is punishable by law.

  So, never argue, never fight with a pig. You will only get dirty and the pig will like it.

  Me ibang klaseng laban, at yun ang dapat na ginawa ko noon pa.

  Sa lahat ng babae na may ganitong karanasan, o nasa ganitong sitwasyon,  may batas po tayo at pinarurusahan ng batas ang lalaking tumatakas sa responsibilidad niya sa anak niya. ‘Wag ng makipag-away, ‘di ka mananalo sa dakdak lang.

  Mommy M

   

  Hi Mommy M!

  Sometimes, we remain silent not because we accept defeat but because we just want peace.

  What you did was right, it is high time he starts to recognize his obligations to your child.

  This is not for you but for the child.

  Let the law do what’s best, let the law punish him.

  15 years is no joke.

  Kung gustong magbigay or sumporta kahit magkano magbibigay, hindi puro dahilan.

  Men who deliberately ignore their responsibility never run out of excuses at laging kasalanan mo.

  Kasalanan mo nagkaanak siya sayo, kasalanan mo kaya ‘di siya nagbibigay at kasalanan mo pa din kaya ‘di siya makapagbigay.

  So God bless, Mommy M! Magaling na abogado ang nakuha mo.

  Happy new year!

  

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