Let Hard Times Make You Or Break You

April 16, 2018

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  Hi DJ Chloe!

  Please hide my identity. This is a dummy account. I never thought that despite of my fair share of rejections, the most painful would be from someone whom you love so dearly and whom you gave everything because you thought that he’ll bring you to the altar someday. DJ, I admit I’m not perfect, I have so many shortcomings and I am the cause of our fights most of the time. Yes, we fight – a lot, be it due to petty reasons, even money, time, all possible reasons a couple would have disagreements. We have argued about these things given our two-year relationship. I asked him if I’m still the person he would want to spend the rest of his life and he said he doesn’t know anymore. He said he is fed up with my attitude, that I’m manipulative, I don’t appreciate his efforts. I don’t know how to understand things that should be taken into consideration and lastly, I don’t know how to make lambing. DJ, I’m not really the “malambing” type of person. I grew up in a family that doesn’t show off affection to each other. I may be manipulative because I want the best for us, for our future specifically. The moment he said these words, I felt that my life has shattered. I cried and I don’t want to continue with my life anymore. I accepted and loved him for who he is but he can’t accept me anymore for the mistakes that he said I keep on repeating and for my attitude that I cannot change. I accepted and fought for him despite my relatives’ objection and opinion about him. It feels like that the reason why it’s that easy for men to let me go is because something is really wrong with me. I’m so depressed and hopeless, DJ Chloe. I’m at the point in my life now that nothing good is happening. I’m so frustrated with my career and relationship. Sometimes I want to deactivate my social media account because I keep on seeing colleagues getting engaged and getting married, stepping their way up in the corporate world. But me, I got stuck. My boyfriend and I are still together. Actually, he wants for us to cool off but I don’t believe in such because it will all boil down to break up. I love him so much and it’s really hard and painful to let him go. I don’t know what life would be without him. Please enlighten me, DJ.

  Yours truly,

  Cielo

   

  Hi Cielo,

  Thank you for sending me a letter.

  So, you think men easily let go, because theres’ something wrong with you?

  Realization ba ito on your part? You know, giving everything, does not guarantee that a person will stay.

  Maybe it’s you, maybe it’s him but it always takes two to tango.

  You said you got stuck? And your boyfriend now is asking for “space”.

  Why not take this opportunity to move forward if you think you’re “stuck”.

  It only seem scary, kasi nasanay ka na na andyan siya.

  Baka kailangan mo munang mag-isa, para suriin ang sarili mo, para makilala mo ang sarili mo at higit sa lahat para matutunang mahalin ang sarili mo.

  I always believe that people who are meant to stay in your life will always gravitate back to you.

  Take this opportunity to start having a relationship with yourself. Pahinga ka muna, magfocus ka muna sa career. Ang career kasi ‘di ka iiwanan.

  And oh, ‘wag kang masyadong maniniwala sa mga nakikita mo sa social media. Iba ang nakapost sa mga tunay na nangyayari sa buhay.

  Cheer up! Count your blessings, dear. You’re still blessed, ‘di mo lang nakikita.

  

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