Let It Be “Just Friends”

January 5, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  First of all happy new year! Not really my thing to ask for advice in this manner but I thought, why not give a try? Anyway, I’m in love with my colleague. I finally had a date with her some time in October after being persistent. During that first date, she told me almost everything I need to know. She got two kids (which is okay with me). What got me off guard was when she told me she got feelings for someone. She said that guy don’t really like her and he is courting one of their common friends but she was kinda trying to win him. Three or four days later, after that date, I found out they became a couple, which sucks (forgive me for the word). She told me that guy who does not like her, told her: “I don’t want to lose you.” He said that to her even if he is courting someone else and he does not have feelings for her. To me, that guy is just taking advantage of her feelings. Not only that, even if they are couple, we still meet up and have coffee or dinner. I even met her elder son just before Christmas. I also found out, I’m not the only one she is dating even if she has a “boyfriend”. A “boyfriend” who is just taking advantage of her, who got insecure after knowing I started courting her. Anyway, did I make the right decision to completely stop courting her? I know it will be very difficult to focus at work seeing her everyday with that guy. Especially now that we are in bad terms.

  J

  Hi J!

  Obviously you are the only one who is into her. She in never into you. She is into someone else and others too. Kasi sabi mo she is still dating. Though she is constantly seeing this guy whom she really likes but likes someone else. Napakagulo! A relationship,  a “budding” relationship is only intended for two people. Anything more than that is not a relationship anymore but a carousel. If you enjoy riding the carousel then go ahead and play. If not, get out of the carousel and find another play ground where you can just play see saw. Dalawa lang kayo or find a swing, na dalawa lang kayong magkatabi na mag s-swing. You got my point? I would say it was a wise decision for you to stop courting her. It’s for your own good…and sanity.

  

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