Make a plan to move unless you want to stay where you are

July 4, 2019

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  Hi DJ Chloe, my very favorite DJ.

  My problem is I am a single mom. I had a boyfriend who is 62 years old, in short senior citizen na siya. I am 43. He has seven (7) children, all at 20s and up. They don’t like me. The eldest keeps on texting me and bad words are often said. It hurts because, really, I don’t depend on him, I had a job. I raised my child alone through my effort. Napapdalas na din ang pag-aaway namin because of them. Then one time I asked him kung ano ba balak niya sa’min dahil nag-two years na kami last June. And nagulat ako when he said none. ‘Di siya ready magpakasal. I guess, takot siya sa mga anak niya and deep inside him gusto niya. Mixed emotion. What do you think, DJ? Should I remain with him or need to let him go? Honestly, I love him. Not for anything else but maybe because I’ve been single for how many years. Parang gusto ko ma-stick na lang sa kanya. Thank you, DJ Chloe. Medyo mahaba na. Hope to hear from you soon.

  Single Mom

  Hi Sis!

  Mas masarap ang buhay ng walang stress at walang papakisamahang walong tao. Walo dahil si boyfriend at mga anak niya. Even if you say na hindi naman ‘yun ang mga makakasama mo still papakisamahan mo pa rin ang mga ‘yun. And believe me, you will spend the remaining perimenopausal and menopausal years of your life walking on eggshells.

  You’re 43, he is 62. Sis, I don’t want to be harsh, but you know at his age, madadalas na trips niyo niyan sa mga doctor. Gusto mo ma- alaga? Go. Sa totoo lang his children should be thankful, kasi may makakasama sana ang ama nila sa pagtanda, kaso mukhang at 62 wala pang backbone si Tatang at takot sa mga anak niya. And the mere fact prinangka ka na niya na wala siyang plano sa’yo, aba, magplano ka na para sa sarili mo at ‘wag mo siyang isama. Join Zumba classes, go out and travel with friends, labas kayo ng anak mo ng madalas, learn a hobby. Makakalimutan mo ‘yan si Tatang. Sayang ang time, bata ka pa naman. If you really want to have a partner, ask God to give you one. If it’s God-given, walang stress ‘yan, sis na kasama.

  

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