Meddling can be another problem

March 19, 2019

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  Good evening po DJ Chloe,

  Sorry for the late message but I hope maair po ito. This is not about me, this is about my co-worker. Actually, my supervisor who turned out to be a close friend. She is 45 years old and single. August 2018, she told me na may gustong manligaw sa kanya from the office but she turned down kasi may asawa na. She didn’t tell me who the guy is. Pero ang napapansin ko, mula pa nu’ng October 2018 until now, constant ang communication nila ng isang guy officemate namin na may asawa na. Nagtatawagan sila, I discovered it kasi nakikita ko ‘yung number na nagfa-flash sa cellphone niya every time tatawagan siya ni guy. Sa dalas ay halos makabisado ko na ang number. And then when I had the chance, nakitawag ako kay guy para tawagan ang boyfriend ko para lang makuha number ni guy in discreet way. And ayun! Same number nga ng katawagan ng officemate ko. Napapansin ko na hindi na lang simpleng pagkakaibigan ang meron sila dalawa. I think they are falling for each other or worse only my supervisor is falling for him kasi kilalang womanizer si guy. Naaawa ako kay supervisor kasi I know how vulnerable she is kaya madali siyang nagoyo ni guy officemate. Until now, hindi ko pa ipinapaalam sa kanya na may alam ako between her and that guy. Should I tell her? Or hahayaan ko na lang sila. Pero may asawa si guy and officemate din namin. We work in the government, alam kong pwede silang mapatalsik sa work at makasuhan dahil sa ginagawa nila. Sana nga lang wala silang ginagawa beyond talking to each other everyday. Patulong naman po DJ, naaawa kasi ako sa supervisor ko kasi alam ko na siya.

  Miss JL

  Hi Miss JL,

  Wala kang magagawa unless otherwise you want to give her an unsolicited advice and tell her na you know what’s going on. But well, baka sumama pa loob niyan sa’yo lalo if she denies everything. Sabihin niyan judgemental ka. So ang magagawa mo lang eh give her bits and pieces and advice na kunyari you’re concerned about her and it’s a good thing that “turned down” the married manliligaw kasi it’s a disaster kamo waiting to happen. Make her realize that if pinatulan niya ‘yun eh baka maeskandalo lang siya and it might cost her job. I know how much you feel for her being a friend but you can’t just cross the line unless she starts asking for your two cents. If you know what I mean.

  It’s not good to meddle, and to even give comments specially if you’re not directly involved.

  

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