No Closure Is Closure

December 8, 2016

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  Hi! This is my dummy account. Gusto ko kasing maenlighten dahil sa nangyari kaya nandito ulit ako. Anyway, here’s my story…

  My boyfriend and I broke up last year dahil sa babae. By the way, single mom ako with two kids. Dahil mgkapitbahay lang kami kaya nalaman kong nagkahiwalay sila. Nu’ng nagkahiwalay sila nagparamdam ulit siya sa akin though wala namang verbal na balikan. Pero lumalabas kami at may nangyayari.

  Okay naman kami kahit walang commitment. Tatay pala siya ng bunso ko. After all sabi nga every body deserves a second chance. Tsaka wala naman akong boyfriend kaya pumapayag akong lumabas kami.

  First week of November lumabas ulit kami. I thought okay pa din kami. ‘Di ko naisip na may bagong babae ulit. Nabalitaan ko na lang second week of November may girlfriend na daw. And I heard na dinadala niya na sa place namin. Pero lately naririnig ko na he’s getting married na nga daw.

  Nu’ng may nagsabi nga na ilang beses niya nang dinala nagtext ako na kung pwede respeto naman kahit ‘di na sa akin, para sa anak namin. Then one time nakita ko sila dito sa amin. Sa sobrang galit ko sinampal ko siya at sinapak. Masakit eh tapos wala pa kaming closure.

  Masakit na ginawa niya kong panakip-butas.

  PS. I heard they getting married.

  Thank you, DJ Chloe!

  Miss D

   

  Hi, Miss D!

  Since this is your dummy account let me address you by the name of Miss D!

  You know why it all came to this? Because you allowed him. Pumayag kang gawin kang panakip-butas.

  Hindi ka naglagay ng boundary kahit pa tatay siya ng anak mo. Nag-assume ka na okay kayo.

  Dear, words and actions are both needed to validate each other.

  This guy, your ex, father of your child, thinks everything is just okay with you. It’s not disrespect for him. It’s because you allowed him to think that everything is just okay with you.

  You have to be the first to respect yourself before he can respect even a tiny part of you.

  You said , after all everybody deserves a second chance. Maybe you wanted a second chance. He never asked for it. What he only wanted, was probably someone to fill the “need” he has. Alam mo na kung ano ‘yun. You gave it to him nang walang kahirap-hirap on his part kasi gusto mo rin.

  Anyways, matuto ka na this time.

  If I were you, take this the biggest sign for you this year to move on with your life without him! Because you don’t need him!

  He can’t even make an honest woman out of you.

  You don’t need a closure from him or from anyone. You need to give yourself closure. No closure is closure!

  

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