No Excuses, You Still Did It

February 9, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Just call me T.

  This feeling is really bothering me and I can’t take it anymore. Hindi ako makapagshare ng nraramdaman ko sa iba kasi hndi p’wede. I am in a relationship at 1 year na kami. And this kind of relationship is bawal talaga. He’s 32 and he’s married, and so am I. In short, pareho kaming may asawa. Pero mahal ko siya. But don’t get me wrong, I love my husband too. Sadyang ‘di ko lang talaga maintindihan bakit nagmahal ako ng dalawa. Hindi ko lang alam sa kanya kung mahal din niya ‘ko. Pagtinatanong ko naman sa kanya, sinasabi naman niya mahal niya ko. Recently lang lagi na kaming nag-aaway. May work kasi ako, I mean kami parehas. Pero gusto niya umabsent ako para lang magkita kami. And then, dumating na sa point na ayoko na kasi pagod na ‘ko tsaka pagnakikita ko ‘yung asawa ko nakokonsensya na ‘ko. Mahal ko ‘yung asawa ko. Then I decided to break up with him. Did I do the right thing? I know tama ‘yung ginawa ko. Pero namimiss ko siya. Please give me some advice, DJ Chloe. Thank you.

   

  Dear T,

  Nakakapagod talaga ‘yan, you’re a woman. And you’re “serving” two men? Mapapagod ka talaga. It will exhaust you not only emotionally but physically! Maaga kang malolosyang sa ginagawa mo at baka mamaya magkasakit ka pa!

  Having an affair is like making fire. And plunging into that fire and burning yourself.

  ‘Di ka ba natatakot sa mga ito:

  1. Asawa ng ka-affair mo na baka magwala sa opisina mo at eskandaluhin ka to the max? (I’ve seen a woman being beaten by the wife of her boyfriend, using an umbrella.)
  2. Asawa mo na baka sugurin ang boyfriend mo at baka patayin?
  3. Or ikaw mismo mabugbog ng asawa mo sa galit sa’yo?
  4. Iwanan ng asawa mo at ilayo sayo ang mga anak mo and declare you in court as an “unfit mother”?
  5. Mastigmatize sa lugar niyo pag nabulgar ang affair mo?

  Saying “I love you” is easy. Proving that it’s true is hard. And you don’t have anything that’s true. What you have with him is a big fat lie simply because you’re married and he’s married. And what you’re both doing is cheating on the people you both made a vow to love and be faithful with.

  I’m not sure if you’ll understand me. Hindi mo maiintindhan hangga’t ‘di ka pa napapahamak.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

   

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