“No One Can Steal Your Man” Is A Lie

July 5, 2017

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  Hi Ms. Chloe!

  Here I am again, can I have another sort of advice? This time, how to be strong and to move on? And paano po ba mawawala ‘yung sakit? It’s been a while since you published my story. A married woman who had a husband abroad, cheated, and blamed his family into everything that happened. Well, anyway this month, he’s finally back, pero hindi para sa’min ng mga anak niya kung hindi para ipaglaban yung pinakamamahal niyang kabit. Well, ang tanging dahilan nya sa’kin ay confident siya pag-kasama niya ‘yun, masaya siya kaya mahal niya at hindi niya daw kaya mawala. I did everything even the best thing to do, I gave up. I told him everything and he cried on what I’ve said. I told him my struggles and what I’ve been through without him for the past year and mostly he cried because our kids still seek for his affection. He waited for me, baka daw bumalik ako pero I said “no” and told him that I can’t even offer a “friendship” with him, he begged but I ignored. Eventually, kahit bumibisita siya sa bahay para sa mga bata, nasasaktan parin ako kahit ayoko na.

  Casual lang kami pag dating sa mga bata, ang hindi pa namin masyadong napapag-usapan ‘yung para sa mga bata, I mean sa’min ng mga bata (since married naman kami) I really want to take legal actions on my side pero medyo alanganin lang because I once seek an advice. Sabi ni Attorney, medyo bloody ito and may possibility na ma-trauma ang mga kids ko. Right now, I really am confused on what should I do. I wanted to fight for what is right and what is really for us (kahit hindi na siya kasama.) Gusto ko na kahit pa-paano ay masigurado ko kung posisyon ng mga anak ko sa Tatay nilang malandi. I’m so confused. HELP!

  Misty

  Dear Misty,

  Annulments are really not a happy thing to do, unless you want it so bad, because you don’t want to be carrying his family name. If you want to go through it, you have to be ready with everything, including having meetings with Psychologists kasi they will be the one to determine kung psychologically incapacitated kayo or the other one to be in a marriage.
  You also have to be ready with expenses. Mahal ang mga psychologists pati na rin ang mga lawyer.

  Overall, it’s advisable talaga na gawin lalo na if doomed na ang marriage.

  Sa mga bata naman, you have to talk about financial support, but sadly mahabang proseso ‘din ‘yan.

  I think you need to settle first yourself.

  Allow yourself to heal. If you don’t feel like being friends with him it’s okay! No one is forcing you to do that but you have to remain civil for the sake of the kids, with the other girl, don’t let her bother you. You can only be affected if you allow that person to affect you. You don’t have any business with her.

  Accept the fact that things will never be the same again, set him free. The best revenge to the woman who stole your husband is to let her keep him.

  As for you, build yourself again, make something out of yourself and be the best mother to your kids, in time you will understand why things happened, baka magpasalamat ka pa na nawala siya sa’yo.

  

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