No One Is Good Enough For An Unprepared Man

September 23, 2016

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  Good day, DJ Chloe!

  Please hide my identity. Matagal ko nang gustong sumulat pero ‘di ko alam paano sisimulan. Just call me Jara. 28 years old. May boyfriend ako for eight years, working siya as seaman sa cruise ship. While me kakaresign ko lang sa previous work ko and now managing my own small cafe business.

  For eight years, wala akong naririnig sa kanya regarding settling down, while me, gusto ko na magkapamilya at maging ina. Before naiintindihan ko kasi nagpapaaral pa siya ng kapatid but now patapos na kapatid niya my another reason na naman siya. Kesyo ‘di pa siya ready emotionally and financially. Ayaw niyang maghirap kami especially now na wala akong work. Kumbaga wala akong salary. In short, iniisip niya ang after the marriage which is alam kong positive naman. Pero paano naman ako bilang babae? ‘Di naman na ako pabata and sa field ng work niya three months lnag siya nandito .Gusto ko na pong magkababy. Yes, I love him at alam ko ding mahal niya ako at kahit LDR kami nawowork out namin. ‘Di ko alam if sa akin ba may mali na nagmamadali lang ako or siya na wala akong assurance na naririnig.

  Dear Jara,

  Walang mali sa’yo. You know what they say, no matter how good of a woman you are you will never be good enough to a Man who is not or never READY. He said it himself, hindi siya ready emotionally and financially. Maybe that’s the truth or maybe those are just his reasons. Bottom line, ayaw niya. Ayaw niya pa or ayaw niya talaga. Men can always find someone younger than them for a wife even if their already 65. But not with us women. I can understand na gusto mo na dahil your biological clock is ticking. But what can you actually do if it’s not yet time for you? Besides, you only want to get married because you want a child.

  Girl, have you ever thought of this? What if ‘di ka bigyan ng anak? Isa pa, are you even psychologically and emotionally ready to be a wife? Hindi madali ang magpamilya. Mag scroll ka at basahin mo lahat ng problema ng mga sumusulat sa’kin na may asawa. Marriage is not for the faint hearted, dear. Hindi lang ito para magka-anak. You are lucky you don’t have the heartaches and misfortunes of those who entered this so-called contract named “marriage”. You’re only 28 years old. Ano na ba ang na-achieve mo? Career? May sarili ka na bang napundar? Savings? Retirement plan for yourself? Do not make marriage your only goal in life. Try to make a survey. Ask around, mga may asawa na. Try to dig in and find out for yourself if rushing into marriage is the only thing that can give you the ultimate happiness and satisfaction in life. Don’t take your man seriously, my dear. Kung ako sinabihan niyan na ‘di siya ready emotionally and financially. For eight long years? Tatadyakan ko ‘yan palayo sa’kin! Walang plano ‘yan sa’yo. Baka sa iba meron.

  

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