Do Not Go Back To The Reason Why You Got Knocked Down

September 10, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  This is my second time na hihingi ng advice sa pagiging “dakilang tanga ko.” I have a live-in partner, five years on and off relationship . We have two kids. Sa pagiging on and off namin iisa lang ang dahilan, dahil sa pambababae niya . Last year naghiwalay kami for almost two months. He had a girlfriend and naging close ulit ako sa ex ko na galit na galit siya. That time isa pa lang baby namin. October 28, he had a girlfriend pa rin and naaksidente siya sa motor . He text me and said “akala ko talaga mamatay na ‘ko si ***** (my daughter’s name) na lang talaga iniisip ko . At first, hindi ako naniniwala hanggang nagtext nanay niya . DJ Chloe, pumunta ‘ko sa kanila at ako nag-alaga sa kanya kahit may girlfriend pa siya. November, naoperahan ulit siya because of hematoma. And then naging okay na ulit kami but bumalik ulit siya sa palagi naming issue.  January this year, nagkalabuan kami ulit and nalaman kong buntis ako. Umuwi kami ng Cavite dahil hndi na kami okay but nalaman kong nagkabalikan pala sila ng ex niya at nagkagirlfriend pa ng ibang babae . Ang sabi niya malalaman ko rin in the right time kung anong dahilan niya. To make the super long story short, nagkabalikan ulit kami for the sake of our baby at magbabago na daw siya but ngayon nabasa ko sa Facebook niya na he had an affair with her best friend’s live in partner.

  To complicate things, tomboy ang best friend niya. Sobrang sakit, DJ Chloe. Ipapamuka pa sa’yong four times may nangyari sa kanila. Please help me and advice me what to do . Nakakadiri sila. I’ve never imagine na papatol siya sa kinaksama ng best friend niya. ‘Di ko mapagtanto na pati best friend niya lolokohin niya dahil lang sa babae . Please hide my identity, DJ Chloe.

  Ms. Dakilang Tanga

  Dear Ms. Dakilang Tanga,

  What advice do you need? Isn’t what you feel about the whole circus, the whole thing, enough for you to finally say your last piece to him and slap him so hard hell have an amnesia!

  Alam mo ang lalaking babaero usually bakla! Front nila ang pambababae para mapagtakpan ang tunay na kulay nila. As if trying to prove to the whole world and convincing his own self na siya ay lalaki dahil andami nyang  “pinapaligayang babae.” A real man makes only one woman happy.

  He doesn’t have any sense of value that even his friendship, eh kaya niyang balewalain sa tawag ng laman niya.

  Staying with this person will make you miserable day in and day out, 24/7. And if you’re thinking you can change him or he will change or his daughters with you can change him, nag-aantay ka sa pagputi ng uwak, dear. No mortal can change him except God. And until such time he himself desires change and ask God to change him, he will be that way forever.

  If you’re staying with him because of the kids, don’t ever think you’re doing him a favor, wala sa kanya ‘yan.

  Hindi tayo nabubuhay lang sa mundo to be pestered for life by a man. As women and as mothers, we have a responsibility to our children and to our very own self. To be repeatedly cheated on, and to forgive the same mistake doesn’t make you a saint, dear. It doesn’t also make you loveable or worth keeping. It actually makes you so dispensable, you know why? Because this guy knows that no matter what he does, no matter how much he offends you, you will always take him back without batting your eyes! Because he knows he’s got you wrapped around his tail!

  Break the cycle! Get rid of what keeps knocking you down! Bwisit na lalaking ‘yan!!!

  

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