Not Too Much For Your Heart

March 16, 2016

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  This is my first time to write to you on air. I’m a listener of your radio station.

  I’m Mir, 23 years old. I want to share my story. I have a boyfriend right now. Nagkakilala kami malapit sa dati kong work. Mas matanda po siya sa akin ng four years. Actually, siya ang kumuha ng number ko at binigay ko naman. Kasi po nakikita ko naman siya palagi noon. Niligawan niya ako at sinagot ko po siya agad. I know that this is wrong dahil masyadong mabilis ang pangyayari. But naging magkaibigan naman kami. Hanggang sa naging kami. Pero ang masama ay may nangyari isang beses.

  I love this guy so much. Our conversations and communication is okay, but every time that we’re together he’s always borrowing money. Noong una sa load niya, pero ‘di ko po pinabayaran dahil ‘di ko ugali ‘yun. Second, ‘yung sa pamasahe niya kasi daw nagkulang. So binigyan ko po siya. But in our date sagot niya.

  These past days bihira na lang po siya magtext o tumawag. Ang sabi niya wala daw siyang load. Nu’ng una ako ang madalas, pero kalaunan, hindi na po ako ang tumatawag palagi sa kanya o nagtetext. Pag nagtext siya doon lang ako magtetext dahil baka nakukulitan na siya. May work po siya and he’s a security guard. But as of now ako po ay wala pa.

  Nitong nakaraan tumatawag po ako sa kanya, naka 10 missed calls na po ako but walang sumasagot. Pero nu’ng tinry ko na tawagan siya ulit sumagot naman po siya. Pero para akong tinamad but I don’t know what happened at ganoon nangyari. Noong sumagot siya ang sabi ko pa po sa kanya “akala ko ayaw mo na ‘ko sagutin.” He said, “‘di ko lang nasagot kung ano-ano na iniisip mo.”

  ‘Di na po siya palagi tumatawag pero pag sa text nagtetext naman and messages in Facebook. But every time that I am inviting him to come over tumatanggi po siya. Ang sabi niya next time na lang para mapaghandaan. DJ Chloe, what should I do? Is there someone else in his life aside from me? And do you think that is it right to continue our relationship? I hope you can help me right now. Thanks, DJ Chloe and more power to your station. God bless.

  Dear Mir,

  Next time na lang siya dadalaw sa’yo para mapaghandaan niya kung ano namang pagastos ang gagawin niya para makautang sa’yo.

  Susme naman. Siya may work, ikaw wala, tapos ikaw pa nagpapautang. Ang gwapo ba nito?

  I couldn’t blame you for being a victim here kasi you’re only 23. This guy, did you even try to find out if he is married or not?

  Can I be blunt? He’s not interested with you anymore because he already got what he wanted from you. What else can you offer?

  This guy is only up to one thing and that’s to get you in bed. And he did it without even lifting a finger! Nor batting his eyes!

  Next time, you should know better. Let this be a lesson to you. Not everyone who seems friendly wants to be your friend. Not everyone who shows interest in you will be consistent enough to hang on. And again, a guy/man who is into you will never ever bother you with money! Ever!

  Drop it and just dust yourself off. Because if not you might end up being a single mother.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

   

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