On The Edge Of Emotions

March 7, 2016

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  Hi, DJ Chloe!

  Avid listener niyo po talaga ako. Please, patago na lang ng identity ko po and just call me Confused11.

  I have a boyfriend for almost three years. Actually, mag th-three years pa lang kami this coming March 10. My boyfriend was a seafarer pero. Now, he decided na ‘wag nang sumakay ulit. Aware ako na ayaw ng parents niya sa akin since 10 years ang age gap namin. I’m turning 36 this year. Last year umuwi siya then doon nagstart ang awkward communication namin.

  Nu’ng nasa barko siya every minute nag-uusap kami through Viber and Facebook Messenger. Pero ngayon halos wala na. Last Valentine’s Day, he messaged me. After then, until now, wala na naman. My heart wants to hold on. Pero ang isip ko ayaw na.

  I have my work and nu’ng wala pang kakayanan ang boy friend ko dati ako tumtulong sa kanya. He even lived sa bahay pag nag-aasikaso siya dati ng papers. Sa house namin legal kami kasi tanggap siya nila papa. And nagsabi naman siya na seryoso siya. But that was before siya umalis early last year.

  Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. Every time I scan naman his Facebook wala namang girl dun na paghihinalaan ko. Even friend niya nagsabi na very busy lang talaga boy friend ko.

  DJ Chloe, what will I do? Mag-aaniversary na kami pero wala siyang paramdam. Ang nakakatawa pa, nagpopost siya about sa trucking services and kotse niya pero any message sa akin wala. Do I need to accept na wala na kami dahil iba na ang priorities niya or I should understand and wait?

  Thank you DJ Chloe and God bless you more.

  Dear Confused11,

  You can always ask because if you don’t the answer will always be “no”. See, that’s the thing about life. Change is the only thing that’s constant about it.

  People, situations, even feelings change. Maybe he loves you still but I guess being away and seeing the world has changed him and the way he see things, and his priorities. It’s hard to talk about things through Viber or Facebook messenger. Wait for him to come home so you can face him and see his reactions and feel the gravity of his words. It’s simple. Talk to him and ask about the directions of your relationship. If hindi mo kaya, mage-gauge mo ‘yan sa mga sinasabi niya pagmagkasama kayo. Madali lang malaman. If he is into you he will surely be vocal about his plans for both of you. ‘Wag kang mahiya magtanong because ang alam ko may relasyon kayo.

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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