The Past Should Be Left In Past

January 16, 2018

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  Dear DJ Chloe,

  Please, please hide my real identity. I’m an avid fan since then. Let me start my letter during my college days. I have a former boyfriend who’s now a registered doctor. We’ve been a couple for almost two (2) years since 3rd year college. We parted ways because of differences and priorities. I have no plans kasi before of pursuing my med school and I need to help my family to earn money to survive. Actually, to be honest if you will ask me, siya ang lalaking hinding-hindi ko makakalimutan dahil sa lahat ng naging boyfriend ko siya ang ipinaglaban at na-challenge ako dahil hindi siya gusto ng family ko for me. I almost killed myself noonh maghiwalay kami. Although, we have closure na maayos pero deep inside of me ‘di ko matanggap na he still chose to let me go. Time fly so fast until last 2013 nagkita ulit kami and we have this chance na magkamustahan. Before noon maghiwalay kami, prinomise niya na he will finish his med school for me. I can still remember that promise. And that chance na unexpected meet sa isang hospital, bumalik lahat ng pain at feelings ko sa kanya to be honest.

  But that time, I still chose na piliin ang current boyfriend ko for 12 years already. But the truth is, noon sinabi niya na he’s already a doctor. I know na pinapaalala niya lang ‘yun promise niya sa’kin and he wants me back pero dinedma ko lang ‘yun kasi ayoko sana maging unfair. Three years after, my boyfriend and I got married. Mahal ko naman siya but the feeling noong malaman ko na current year nagpakasal na din sa isang doctor si “EX” really nailed me deep inside. Kala ko tapos na itong feelings na ito. The question is, I should have been done with this but I can’t fully understand why I should feel this pain. I love my dear husband and I don’t want to be unfair also with him. Gusto ko lang magmove on na sa buhay ko since we have our own separate lives together. I wish my “Ex” happiness but my heart feels different whenever I think of him. Hope you can give me an advice. Thank you.

  -Ms. A

  Dear Ms. A,

  Nagkita kayo, nagkamustahan, but you chose na piliin ang current boyfriend mo for 12 years already? Bakit? Pinapili ka ba nya?

  12 years na kayo ni boyfriend,  I don’t understand how you go on having a relationship with him na iba pala gusto mo? Now that you’re married, doesn’t give you any right to even think of anyone else. You both have chosen someone else. May asawa na siya, ikaw din naman. Just because a person is a big part of our PAST doesn’t mean he remains to be included in our future.

  The struggle is in yourself and I do hope you find the courage to choose the present than dwell in the past. Kaya nga may mga kantang The One That Got Away eh. Let him be the one that got away.

  There’s a reason why you didn’t end up with him. And if you keep nurturing whatever feelings you have for him, you will never be happy in the present with your husband and the family you are building with him.

  Past is past. Be in the moment.

  

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