Teamwork

February 1, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m having relationship problems with my husband. We’ve been married for 13 years. If we have problems, madali naming maayos but now it’s different. I decided kasi to go abroad for work. Problem is ayaw niya. Kahit i-explain ko sa kaniya paulit-ulit kung bakit ako aalis; it’s for the kids’ future. I don’t know kung natatapakan ko ang ego niya or something to do with trust issues. Naiinis ako kasi we can’t even meet halfway. I don’t want to back down kasi my decision is final. I just want him to support me on this, understand why I’m doing this. Nakakainis lang kasi we’ve been together for 13 years, through thick and thin. Kahit ‘yung mga friends ko sabi nila na intindihin ko na lang because my husband loves me so much. I don’t understand why is he against this, when this will help solve our financial problems. What should I do. Thanks, DJ Chloe.

  Beth

  Dear Beth,

  May I just say that problems like yours really gives me a hard time. I am pro family but I am also pro women. I am all support for women who still wants a career. Women who wants to make valuable contribution financially for her family.

  As you’ve said, working abroad will help you financially in solving your financial problems.  Sobra bang malaki ang problema sa pera? Are you guys indebted? Hindi na ba kayang mabuhay ng disente dito sa atin with both of you working really hard?

  I’m asking because if you can’t get a full support from your husband on this , it will take its toll on your marriage.

  Isa pa, lalaki ‘yan. And men, when left to their own devices might go astray. Tanggapin na natin ‘yan. Kasama mo na nga naliligaw pa ng landas, iiwanan mo pa?

  Another is mahirap daw ang buhay sa abroad. Unang kalaban mo ang lungkot. You’ve got kids, iba pa rin ang nandito ang nanay.

  You can go on with your plans. BUT you have to be ready for the consequences since hindi siya solid sa gusto mo. Team work ang marriage and I know you know that for a fact.

  Pray hard for this one. Both of you. He is so against it, ask him. Find out why and if they’re valid reasons consider them.

  Work with each other not against each other.  You’re lucky you are so loved by your husband .

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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