There’s So Much To Be Thankful For

December 15, 2016

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  Hi, DJ Chloe! Magpapasko na! Pero nalulungkot po ako. Magkasunod na namatay ang parents ko. Tapos ‘yung asawa ko parating busy sa trabaho niya. Gabing-gabi na umuuwi. Naadik pa sa games sa phone. ‘Di lang adik, sobrang addicted na po ata. Hindi na kami halos nakapag-usap. Kaya tuloy may mga tanong ako sa sarili ko po. Gusto ko lang po i-share itong nabuo kong sulat para sa sarili ko. Wala po kasi akong mapagshare-an. Kaya po depressed po ako.

  Dear Buhay,

  Kamusta ka na? Masaya ka pa ba? May kotse ka naman, may bahay, may mga anak. May tinatawag na pamilya. Kaso ‘di naman magkakasama. ‘Yung isang mong anak pasaway pa minsan ‘di na nakikinig sa magulang. Si asawa may trabaho. Yes, good provider. Pero may oras pa ba sa’yo? ‘Pag nasa bahay busy sa ibang bagay. Gabing-gabi na kung umuwi galing trabaho. Ano kaya ang mali at ganyang ang sitwasyon mo?

  Masaya ka bang talaga o pinapasaya mo lang ang sarili mo. Alam mo, buhay, masarap mamuhay ng simple basta parating magkakasama at may oras para sa bawat isa. Nagsawa ka na ba, ha? Kasi umiiyak ka na. Nasasaktan ka b,a ha? Gusto mo na bang kumalas, ha? Kapag ginawa mo ‘yan sasabihin ng iba ang tanga mo. Kasi ang tingin nila perpekto ang buhay mo. ‘Di nila alam dumudugo ang puso mo, ‘di mo lang pinahalata. Hanggang kelan ka magppretend na masaya ka pa rin sa sitwasyon mong ganyan? Alalahanin mo may maliit ka pa. Kaya kayanin mo hangga’t kaya. Malay mo marecognize nila ang effort mo. Uuwi na sila ng maaga. ‘Di na sila magpasaway. ‘Wag ka na umiyak. Muta lang mapapala mo. Alam ko dobleng sakit naramdamam mo kasi wala na ang dalawa sa importanteng tao sa buhay mo. Pero keep going. Siguro kapag tapos ka na sa obligasyon mo bilang magulang p’wede ka nang bumigay. Sa ngayon, ‘wag muna, ha? Ngiti lang parati. Pretend to be happy. ‘Di ka nagkulang. Sila ang may pagkukulang. Cheer up.

  PS. Dati na po akong nagsend ng problema sa’yo. Thankful ako sa mga payo mo. Please po hide my identity po.

  Mrs. Unhappy

   

  Dear Mrs. Unhappy,

  Paskong-pasko nag-eemote tayo, ah! Well, thank you for sending a letter and for choosing to vent out on me. and for thinking that I can give you a sound advice.

  Everything I am to tell you is based only on the content of your letter. So let’s start. :)

  You have pointed several reasons that makes you feel unhappy, unappreciated, and probably unloved.

  And I told you, I can still say that you’re still lucky and have so many things to be thankful for.

  1. You have a husband. He maybe addicted to some gaming thing on Facebook, addicted to working long hours, doesn’t give you much time but you still have a husband whom you said is a good provider.

  Can you imagine how many wives out there are working for their family alone? How many moms are working abroad–leaving their kids to take care of other people’s kids? Leaving their husbands who eventually because of being alone and lonely would find someone else to replace them?

  What if you have a husband who happens to be either jobless, womanizer, substance abuser or a chronic gambler? Do you think you can handle? So much of our unhappiness in life is because we don’t accept what we have and we don’t make the most out of it?

  You have a husband, a good provider, talk to a single mother and ask her what it’s like to provide ALONE.

  He is your husband. TALK TO HIM. What, you’re waiting for him to talk to you? Why not do it first? At night, seduce him. He is a good provider, right? Use his money, go to a salon. Buy a sexy lingerie. Book a night in a hotel. Get a massage together and end the day making love like crazy with him. He is your husband, be a wife.

  2. “‘Yung isang mong anak pasaway pa minsan ‘di na nakikinig sa magulang.”

  Some parents lost their child this year. Nasangkot ang iba sa gulo, napatay sa daan, napagkamalan, nagkasakit, at one point in our lives naging pasaway din tayo sa magulang, ‘di ba? Sinukuan ka ba ng magulang mo?  Hindi, ‘di ba? Magpasaway na ang anak ko hanggang gusto nya bastat nakikita ko siya at kasama ko siya.

  Walang sakit, nakakausap ko, malusog siya. Do you know how it feels like to have a child who lives on medications? I do. Remove or stop the medications and she’s gone in one or two days. Now? Do you still feel bad about your child na pasaway? Love and take good care of  your kids. That’s the first duty of a parent and always pray for your kids. Always ask God in Jesus name for their protection.

  As parents, kahit may mga asawa na ang mga anak natin nandun pa rin tayo. Panibagong pagdamay at pagalalay na naman sa kanila. I’d never wish for my being a parent to end.  I may not become a wife again but I’ll never say no to being a parent for a lifetime.

  Life is never easy. No one said it’s easy and you will definitely make it harder if you don’t accept what you already have.

  Cry if you’re hurting, say what needs saying. No one is perfect. No family is perfect. You only assume that people think you’re family is perfect.

  Do you want to have more meaning in your life? Help people. Go around and look at the world, my dear. You will find the answers on the street. You will realize you’re still lucky you have a home. You have a bed to sleep on. You have clothes and most of all hindi mo na kailangang hanapin pa ang kakainin mo sa buong araw sa loob din ng araw na ‘yun.

  Help people. Feed the hungry. Ang dami sa daan. Helping people will give you a sense of happiness you’ve probably never felt in your life. Watch documentaries on TV, Front Row, Reel Time, those programs and you will be truly grateful, my dear.

  I’m sharing you what my daughter posted on her Facebook wall just a few days ago after she went to an outreach program conducted by their school. And it was actually her first time to do something like that.

  “This Christmas, go and help. I’m serious. Go. Do it. I can’t tell you how great it is. I want you to feel it. At least plan one now and maybe do it next year. I dunno mahn. All I’m saying is, make your life worth it. And then think about that last sentence again. Stare at it. Yah. Think about it.”

  So yeah. Maybe I wasn’t able to inspire you enough, encourage you enough, enlighten you enough, but know that what you’re going through is something everyone have already gone through including myself. The feeling of not being appreciated, taken for granted, unloved.  But you know what, I was able to find refuge, appreciation, and love, when I learned about God.

  This is the best time for you to start having a relationship with HIM. Just as He has restored me, He can also restore you.

  

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