Trust God’s Timing

April 26, 2016

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  Dearest DJ Chloe,

  I’m a fan of your Chloe’s inbox! I love your advices, super tagos sa puso and you just seem to say the right words. Amazing! I’m writing in your inbox because I want to hear your thoughts with my situation. Haha! I know this is nothing compared sa mga concerns ng iba. Call me na lang po Ms. Wallflower, I’m 31 years old, NBSB, never been kissed and never been touched. I’m in a point of my life na I’m asking na po na bakit kaya wala pa rin akong lovelife ’till now? I came from a conservative family, the woman in our families had their first kisses in the altar at the day of their weddings, first boyfriend nila ay yung naging husbands nila. I have a regular job with good pay, I’m pretty much a home body – school, bahay then when I got a job, work bahay lang. I seldom go out with my friends, most of the time I’m with family, even when travelling. I’ve rundown kung ano yung mga possible reasons – hindi naman siguro masama ugali ko kasi sabi ng family and friends ko mabait naman ako, they sometimes call me their Angel and I loved kids naman – I took care of my nephews and nieces. Physically sabi nila pretty naman ako – I’m not sure with that, I am chubby. I love food kasi. Marunong naman ako siguro makisama kasi so far wala pa naman ako nakakaaway na major. Kapag may family gathering, my aunties and uncles keep on bugging if may lovelife na daw ako. It’s becoming irritating. Sinasayang ko daw yung time ko. It’s not like that naman wala lang talagang dumarating. Nagpe-pray naman ako kay God, I go to church every Sunday. Gusto kong isipin na God is preparing the best man for me kung wala then maybe I am meant for single blessedness. Pero minsan, how much I want to be positive minsan may mga moments din ako na naglalapse at nasasad like now, yun na lang kasi hindi ko nae-experience sa life ko. Puro na lang unrequieted love, hindi kasi ako yung type na mag-iinitiate. Sabi ng mga friends ko try ko daw mag-online dating, lumabas naman daw kasi ako, mag-party at mag-socialize. Mag-makeup daw kasi ako at mag-damit ng sexy. Ako kasi yung type na mahilig sa comfort dressing. Ako naman daw mag-initiate, mag-effort to get the attention. Should I? Parang I’m not comfortable with it. Ayoko nga ng reto. I’m not comfortable sa ganung stuff. Medyo na-overcome ko naman na yung shyness ko pero I have to admit, hindi ako comfortable around guys unless gay siya or like a father brother type. Salamat sa time for reading my letter DJ Chloe, sorry the letter is kind of long. Have a good day and I hope you touch more lives.

  Hi Ms. Wallflower!

  You’re lucky you don’t have the problems of 99% of women on my page who are either married to a slob or in a toxic relationship with a man whom they thought is their prince charming or knight in shining armor. Well, tama ka naman. God is still preparing him for you or maybe He is preparing you too. You can’t sell yourself short para lang magka-boyfriend. Pero while I was reading your letter, isa lang ang napansin ko, you want to be bought but you are not selling yourself. Minsan kasi kailangan mo ring gamitan ng marketing yan, ayaw mo mag-effort, ayaw mo mag-ayos, ayaw mo kahit group date or blind date. So, paano? Anong gagawin natin ‘teh? May gusto kang mang-yari pero wala kang ginagawa? You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. Ang mundo ay isang malaking Quiapo, maraming paninda at ang iba magaling pang mag-positioning ng sarili nila sa market. Konting effort, paganda ng konti, hindi kailangan magpa-make up sa salon. Konting powder at pink lipstick. Dress up in a way that compliments your personality or figure. Guys like girls in jeans and white shirt. But pull it off in a manner na you’d still look feminine. Converse! Men like women who can carry a conversation. Overcoming shyness is not enough you know. As I’ve said, may gusto kang mang-yari pero wala kang ginagawa. Go figure!

  Sincerely,

  Chloe

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