When You Know You’re Not The Only One

June 10, 2016

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m a listener of your show. ‘Pag hindi, sa Facebook ako nakiki-update. I also just want to ask for an advice. I am a 24-years old & a government employee. I am in a two years relationship. But right now, hindi kami okay and in good terms. He is working in a car company and he has a workmate, girl to be specific. But now, she resigned. And they are text mates. And he told me that they are friends. Kasi mabait daw talaga si girl. Inamin niya na sweet lang daw talaga pero wala sila relasyon. Knowing the fact they are both in a relationship. And she is getting married soon. One time nu’ng hiniram ko phone niya before niya ibigay sa’kin I saw him deleting a conversation. Alam ko convo nila nu’ng girl ‘yun. Pinaglagpas ko, ayoko lang ng away. When I got the chance to browse his phone nabasa ko ang conversation nila. I understand kaya pala niya binura kasi parang may “something” sa mga palitan ng messages. Ang dating sa’kin ay landian. I have read messages like, “okay lang naman mawala ako sa buhay mo eh, walang magbabago satin, no? Buti hindi nabuo, magaling ka kasi…” And to mention they have this term of endearment,  “Bhe” (girl) and “Dear” (guy). I confronted him, DJ Chloe, kasi sobrang sama at bigat ng loob ko. But he keeps telling na magkaibigan lang sila. Wala akong tiwala sa kanya. Hindi naman ako nakikinig sa kanya bahala na ‘ko. I told him na sana nag-isip sila. Delikadesa ba. And to tell, pangalawang beses na ‘to. Una ‘yung workmate niya rin sa unang branch niya.

  I just want to ask DJ Chloe, over acting lang ba talaga ako? Exaggerated ba reaction ko? ‘Di ko na alam ang iisipin. Kasi ang bigat na ng loob ko honestly. Thanks if this will be given an answer. God bless and more power.

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  Hello!

  No, you’re not exaggerated at all! You have a basis! And you’re not paranoid either. The lies are screaming!

  No “just friends” will text each other that way. And for Pete’s sake, if they want to be together, by all means magsama na lang silang dalawa. Gawin nilang posible! Dahil p’wede naman. Why cheat when you can leave and be with the one you really want? Tapos ikaw pa ‘tong exagg? Eh sila hindi sila exag? ‘Pag-untugin mo kaya sila? Nang matauhan!

  One more thing, your boyfriend is text mates with another girl, why? Can’t you be a text mate to him? If I were you let go of this monkey! They deserve each other. ‘Yang girl is committed and yet text mate niya? Someone who cheats with you will also cheat on you. Bigay mo na sa kanya ‘yan. Bagay sila. Magsawa silang magtext all day.

  A woman’s instinct is very powerful. I strongly believe in a woman’s intuition, it’s a gift from above. DEFENSE MECHANISM ng boyfriend mo ‘yang mga sinasabi niya. Some men have this super duper ability for making you feel guilty for his mistakes! Wala kang tiwala,  ‘di ka naniniwala sa sinasabi niya. Kasalanan mo pa kasi may text mate siya. For sure, girl. We get into a relationship to be happy, at least. A little fight is okay but if your man will make you feel that you have to be in competition with another, ay, Demi Lovato ka na, dear! Let it go, let it go!

  

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