When Your Emotions Rule

October 23, 2017

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  Hi DJ Chloe,

  I’m in my 40s and I’m separated for 20 years na, got no kids. I’m in discreet relationship for almost seven years and counting. I have a business and do online selling on the other side. One day I received a message from my batchmate (he is in abroad right now) inquiring about the items. We did a little chat and that’s wen it all started. This guy is broken-hearted when the chat started. One month pa lang niya kakahiwalay sa wife niya. I heard from my friend (his ex) that he really needs a friend to talk to right now kasi suicidal siya. So for me there’s nothing to lose. I entertained him since we’re a thousand miles away. My only goal is to fill the sadness and balikan niya ‘yung masiglang life niya. A month later, he is telling that he loves me daw which is I told him what he felt was just longingness due to his sadness. But he insist that what he felt is true. He sends me his ATM where all his salary are there just to prove that he truly has a plan for us. DJ Chloe, I’m old enough for this kind of play. Thing is I don’t know how to reject him because I’m afraid na magsuicide siya. Nagkamali ata ako ng pagtulong ko. What to do now DJ Chloe, I told him I’m in a relationship yet in discreet form. He says hiwalayan ko daw. Haisttt. I don’t want to hurt him. Should I stop talking to him? Do you believe his feelings for me? Alam ko malungkot lang siya. And if ever what he felt is true, ‘di ko kayang iwan ang present ko who’s been with all the times of life. How can I explain that to him. Thank you for reading this. Just call me Sherry. I know the reason why God bless your show and shower u with more happiness.

   

  Hi Sherry,

  The best thing to do is to keep reminding him and keep telling him that you are committed already. Pwede mo naman ulit-ulitin ‘yun sa kanya eh hanggang maintindihan niya at respetuhin niya ang desisyon mo. Tingnan mo, pinakinggan mo lang at binigyan ng oras, ngayon burden mo na dahil baka magpakamatay dahil ni-reject mo can you just imagine kung karelasyon mo ‘yan? Stress lang idudulot niyan sa’yo dahil laging bibigyan ka ng guilt trip or emotional black-mail. Why not try na unti-unting ‘wag nang bigyan ng pansin o oras? You have to be firm. Otherwise he will manipulate you. Kaya minsan mas mainam din ‘yung ‘wag ka nang makialam pa sa problema ng iba, nag-inquire about your online products ngayon problema mo na. magnegosyo ka lang kasi ‘wag ka nang maging counselor pa, para wala kang maging problema.

  

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