You Won’t Know Unless You Try

August 15, 2016

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  Thank you po pinansin nIyo’ko. ‘DI po ‘to love problem. Kanina po kasi magsa-submit sana ‘ko ng resume sa isang government agency. ‘Di po natuloy kasi sabi po ng pmilya ko ‘di ko pa p’wdeng iwan ang anak ko na grade 4. Lalaki po siya, siya po ‘yung tipo na pagnagbilin ka sa kanya ‘di niya susundin.

  So sabi po sa’min, mas maganda na mag-abroad na lang mister ko at ako sa bahay na lang.

  Epileptic ako and may diperensya sa matres ko kaya pag nire-regla po ako sobrang sakit na umaabot sa puntong ‘di na ‘ko makapagtrabaho ng gawaing bahay. At ‘yun din dahilan kaya isa lang po anak namin. Nahihirapan na po ako magbuntis. Natutuwa po ako sa asawa ko, bilib na bilib skin. Sayang daw po kasi ang pinag-aralan ko at alam niyang kaya ko. Pero hindi po eh, wala na po akong tiwalang natitira sa sarili ko.

  And ito po ‘yung comfort zone ko, sa bahay. Pero aware naman po ako na walang nag-grow kung hindi ka lalabas sa comfort zone mo. Pero ito lang po talaga ang gusto kong gwin, mging ina at asawa. Kahit naiintndhan po ako ng asawa ko kanina pero alam ko ayaw lang niya ‘ko pilitin. Ganun po siya kabait. Caregiver po sya sa isang reception center sa government agency na papasukan ko sana. Nursing graduate po siya, under board nga lang. Gusto niya ‘ko magtrabaho para ‘di na daw po siya mag-abroad. Sa tingin niyo po ba itutuloy ko pa ang pag-aapply ko? Kanina pa po may bumabagabag sa’kin kasi ‘di ko po tinuloy application ko. Feeling ko talunan ako. Feeling ko hanggang dito na lang po ako, na walang naabot. Pasensya na po natagalan reply ko. Hinintay ko po makaalis mister ko eh. Thank you, DJ Chloe! God bless po! Love ko po talaga ang station niyo.

  Ms. Casey

  Dear Ms. Casey,

  Pick up tayo  dito: “So sabi po sa’min, mas maganda na mag-abroad na lang mister ko at ako sa bahay na lang.”

  So, you stay with parents? And they have a say on your lives?

  Well, I can’t blame you for staying with them. You said you have a condition and your kid also has a condition. He can’t be left alone. I admire your husband for choosing you over and over again in spite and despite of. Your husband see you as “normal” capable and complete.

  Don’t you think you should also see yourself that way?

  The thing is you are so in love with your comfort zone and other than that it’s what you really want to be and to do, stay home and take care of your kid. But you also want to grow and find out if you can make something out of yourself.

  Dear, we can’t spend the rest of our lives hoping, wishing, and dreaming. 99% of life is taking action and being in action.

  And when you tell yourself you can’t and “I won’t” then nothing happens to you really.

  When you see things differently, when you know it in your heart that you can accomplish things, then you can, really accomplish things.

  Casey, we are now in the millennial era, there are things you can do at home and earn money out of it. Try that.

  Believe me, I understand where you’re coming from. You think you can’t really handle even yourself because of your condition. HJave you tried asking the doctors if you can work? Can they give you clearance or at least ask them what you can and can’t do?

  Life is always a choice. And it’s always best to try and fail than not trying at all.

  

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