Words And Actions Must Be One

December 13, 2017

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  Hello DJ Chloe,

  Please hide my identity. I really need your advice. You can call me Jenny. So here it is, I met a guy online, schoolmate ko siya nu’ng college pero ‘di kami personally magkakilala, magkaiba kami ng course so I accepted his friend request sa Facebook. Let’s just call him Jon. After accepting his friend request naging madalas na kami magkachat ni Jon. Then out of nowhere he surprised me sa school sinundo niya ‘ko (currently pursuing post grad degree). Nagdate kami sa mall and I can say na talagang lapitin siya ng babae. Gwapo eh. Naglalakad kami sa mall nagtitinginan mga babae sa kanya.

  Nu’ng hinatid na niya ko sa bahay he tried to kiss me sa lips. I didn’t give in simply because I don’t want him to have the impression na “ay madali ‘to makuha.” He always wanted to spend time with me after our first date pero hesitant ako. Natatakot ako para bang hindi ko afford magtake ng risk and besides ‘di naman niya ‘ko nililigawan. One time, I asked him “ano ba tayo?” Sabi niya “friends, and in the stage of getting to know each other” at sabi niya mahalaga daw masaya kami without pressure. Sa totoo lang, nainis ako sa sagot niya, DJ Chloe. Para bang pakiramdam ko tingin niya hindi ako worth it makarelasyon. Lumayo ako, DJ Chloe, I blocked him sa cellphone ko at Facebook. Nahihirapan ako kasi kahit papano, may nararamdaman na rin ako para sa kanya. Tama ba ginawa ko, DJ Chloe? Nagmamadali ba ‘ko i-define ang relationship na meron kami? Or Am I assuming too much? Thank you so much, DJ Chloe.

  Jenny

  Jenny,

  He tried to kiss you on your lips. Friends don’t kiss each other ng lips to lips. Kahit smack or baka mali ako. Baka iba na ngayon, baka meron ng ganyan. Pero hindi para sa akin.

  Kahit ako malilito rin sa galawan niya. Baka ang gusto niya kasama ka lagi, walang label.

  Okay ba ‘yun sa’yo? Kung hindi, then ‘wag kang pumatol.

  You are assuming? Hindi naman siguro masamang mag-assume kasi he tried to kiss you nga eh. You asked him mag-ano kayo, sinagot ka niya ng friends. So maliwanag na he wants to be your friend, he wants to get to know you more. Ikaw na lang ang bahalang magbigay ng limitasyon, simply because it’s not your cup of tea na pumatol sa mga walang label na relasyon.

  If he has made his intentions clear, then saka mo na lang siya pag-aksayahan ng oras na isipin.

  A man who has good intentions will make it known to you na gusto ka niya more than friends. Words and actions are always needed to validate each other.

  Galawang breezy naman ‘yang si kuya eh. Alam niya kasing gwapo siya.

  

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