You Are Your Choices

October 18, 2016

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  DJ Chloe, I need your advice po.

  I met a 44-year old guy named Kenneth and he works in Pasig. He has  four kids. Ilang buwan na din po kaming lumalabas until nitong huli we got intimate na po. After na may nangyari sa’min nagbago na siya. No text, no calls na po coming from him po. Nalaman ko din po huli na may asawa pa pala siya!

  Masaklap may utang pa siya sa’kin at delayed po ako ngayon. Nagpregnancy test po ako and it’s positive!

  Two weeks na ‘ko ‘di makafocus sa trabaho, lagi umiiyak. Nalilito ako, ang naisip kong paraan  po ay magpaabort

  100x na ‘ko tumatawag sa kanya ‘di niya sinasagot. Dati siya ang tawag ng tawag, gusto ko na pumunta sa asawa niya sisingilin ko utang niya sa harap ng wife niya, tama po ba gagawin ko?

  Anong gagawin ko dito sa bata sa tiyan ko, DJ Chloe?

  Ms. K

  Dear Ms. K,

  You have been one of my avid followers and you know for a fact I will never agree with your plan na ipaabort ang bata. NEVER.

  Ginusto mo rin ‘to so face the consequences of your actions. Men will never be responsible for birth control. It is a woman’s duty and a responsibility to her own self na alagaan at proteksyunan ang sarili niya to abstain is the highest form of protection. But since you were not able to control yourself, to harness yourself, eto na kinalabasan.

  This guy is a CON! Gawain niya na ‘to, mambihag ng babae, mambola, kunin ang loob, get her into bed tapos UUTANGAN niya pa dahil hampas lupa siyang tamad (sorry po sa word). I really hate men who asks women for money!

  Ang lalaki niyong dagmang parang manghingi ng pera sa babae utang na loob!

  You are half this guy’s age. So in a way I can say na talagang inuto-uto ka niya. I am not sure if it’s correct that you let the wife know. If you want to do that, be prepared for a scenario na siya pa ang kakampihan ng asawa niya at ikaw ang magmumukhang haliparot na maninira ng pamilya para sa kanya. Most wives are like that. Instead of opening her eyes and accepting the fact that it was her husband who also wanted to womanize, eh ikaw pa ang sisisihin niyan.

  By all means, get your money back! It’s your money and you need it specially at this point in time na buntis ka. It’s normal for him to tell you an alibi na hindi siya sure na sa kanya ‘yang dinadala mo. In his mind he got you easily, so he will tell you na gawain mo na ring pumatol agad-agad kahit kanino.

  This is life. We make choices, K. And our choices make us. Do not touch your baby. This is not her or his fault! Give your baby a chance to live.

  

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