Your children watch you more than they listen to you

March 18, 2019

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  Good day po DJ,

  I want to ask some advice but pls hide my identity. Ma’am I’m married and a father of four (4) children. Ang problema ko po hindi sa wife ko, ang problema ko po ay sa aking pangalawa kong anak na lalaki. Mula nang nahuli ako ng wife ko na may number 2 ako noon naconfront ako ng wife ko. But lahat naayos namin mag-asawa but my second son nagtanim ng galit sa akin at sinumbatan ako. But I tried to explain lahat pero ayaw ako pansinin at tuwing uuwi mula sa work niya pagdating sa bahay parang aso na dumaan sa harap ko. Hindi man lang nagbless at hindi ako kinikibo at palaging galit sa akin. Minsan sa Facebook niya makikita ko nagpost, galit at layas ng layas malalaman ko na lang sa Facebook niya nasa ibang lugar hindi man lang nagpapaalam at isa pa ma’am kinakahiya niya kami na mga magulang niya. Minsan lahat ng ulam sa bahay inuubos na lang, kainin lahat kung gusto. Ang kinagagalit ko lang po, okay lang pag-ubusin ang pagkain pero pagsweldo niya kasi kahit centimo walang inaabot sa amin. Minsan sigawan pa niya kaming mag-asawa. Nasasaktan po ako sa mga ugali niya at sa mga ginagawa niya. Please try or I need advice para pampagaan ng loob namin mag-asaw. Thanks po in advance. Tuwing papasok po sa work ko I’m tuning in your program at isa pa po pala pareho kaming mag-asawa na nagwo-work sa gobyerno.

  Hi Itay,

  You know our kids are our accountability to the Lord. And as Fathers, you have been given the task of actually “bringing them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Well, that verse in Ephesians actually says at first, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children.” So Biblically, we have already been warned not to provoke our children. Meron pang isa na mas dapat pong pag-isipan niyong mabuti, Matthew 18:6 “If anyone causes on these little ones-those who believe in me- to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Hindi po ako pastor, I sometimes miss Sunday church but I try my best to work out my spiritual wellness even on weekdays. What I am saying here is that as parents, we have a big accountability to the Lord when it comes to raising our kids. At ang relasyon ng ating mga anak sa Panginoon ay mag-uumpisa sa relationship nila sa kanilang mga magulang lalo na sa Ama. Sometimes kids won’t listen to what you say, they look at what you do. You do not know the depth of the wound you have created in him, so be patient in trying to heal it. And seriously you cannot do it alone. But you can always pray and ask God to do it for you, pray for your child also. Pray until things change.

  

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