5 Possible Reasons Why You’re Still Single (And How To Fix It)

Camille Obsipo, Intern

April 24, 2017

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  1. You want things to be done your way.
  In other words, ‘controlling. Some people want things to be organized that’s why they tend to be very vocal about how they want things to turn out. However, there are people who hates the feeling of being controlled for reason that it’s the simple reason that it’s the way they are.
  HOW TO FIX IT: There’s nothing wrong with wanting things to go your way. Who doesn’t want that? But the thing is, healthy relationships are made up of two people who are willing to work their differences out. Just because your partner loves you doesn’t mean he or she will go for whatever you want. There’s such thing as “meet halfway and you can always do that.”

  2. You have unrealistic standards.
  You want someone like James Reid with a bit of Coco Martin who can sing like Sam Smith, dance like Chris Brown and will treat you like one of those Nicholas-Sparks-novel leading man. And if you’re a guy, you want someone who looks like Liza Soberano with a twist of Maine Mendoza who can sing like Adele, groove like Chachi Gonzales and cook like your mom and grandma combined.

  HOW TO FIX IT: Lowering your standards to find a partner is never an option. However, do try to make your standards realistic and reachable.

  3. You’re immature.
  Maturity is not something you learn overnight but something that you develop through time and experience. Maturity is a package of trust and understanding. Thinking not only for yourself, but also for your partner.

  HOW TO FIX IT: If you find a partner who would help you grow as a person, never let him/her go. It’s something special when two people can complement each other and help each other turn their weaknesses to strengths. But while you’re waiting for the one, try to explore things that will help you develop that level of maturity you’ve been aiming. Reflecting or putting yourself in a situation that requires maturity to understand is also helpful.

  4. You’re not completely over your past.
  That person in your past may have set really high standards and engraved memories that you’ll forever cherish, or broke your trust that made you think twice whether or not to love again.

  HOW TO FIX IT: NEVER engage yourself in a relationship if you’re not completely over your ex, or even the memories you’ve had with them. It is unfair for your other half that he or she gets compared from the person in your past. Take your time to let go. Don’t rush. Find yourself again until you can see yourself loving another person who is not your ex.

  5. You’re too busy. Or always busy.
  Bae is life, but work is lifer. Some people are too workaholic that they find it hard to spend time with the people they love. No matter how much they want to spend time with their partner, work and responsibilities seems to get in the way.

  HOW TO FIX IT: There are some people who understands this kind of situation But if you feel like work is eating you up, do try time management and priority setting. Also, make it a habit to avoid work while you’re with your partner. Try to make some time with them, and try to explain your situation. Always remember that when we love someone we should have spare time, we have to make time.

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