5 Reasons Why You Should Keep Your Relationship Private

Stephanie Palpallatoc, Intern

April 4, 2017

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  Mostly, people are very open about their relationship status. From their social media accounts to their friends and families, even to the people they just met —– they couldn’t resist telling stories about how much they admire their partner. It’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to keep relationship a secret. But here’s reasons why you should maintain your relationship’s privacy.

  To keep the relationship personal.

  Although it’s tempting to share every detail of your relationship to other people, there are some things that are better left unsaid. Everyone doesn’t need to know all your stories — your fight over some suspicious texts or short-finances, or even how a good/bad kisser your partner is. It doesn’t have to be opened to everyone.

  When you know when to put your limit, you are giving the relationship a time to breath on its own and you are maintaining the intimacy and sacredness of the relationship.

  To avoid left and right opinions.

  I bet all of us are aware of the “mind your own business” thing. However, a relationship that is opened all over the internet and other people around, doesn’t get this kind of treatment. By simply opening your relationship issues with others, you are opening yourself up to the opinions of others. The more stories you tell other people, the more they give opinions and judgements about your relationship.

  To keep away from bias sentiments.

  The tendency when you encounter problems with our partner is you talk about it to your friends and family. There’s nothing wrong about it. However, because they love you so much, they tend to give you bias comments and suggestions. Obviously, this will not be healthy for the relationship. Instead of making things better, it might only heat up the flames between you and your partner.

  Your family and friends’ approval are very important in a relationship. So you must be very careful of what you say, or you might end up regretting saying bad things against your partner. Because even when the time comes that you’ve already forgiven your behalf, your family and friends might still hold grudges because of the negative seeds you’ve planted in their minds. So, you must weigh when to speak, and when not to.

  Everyone won’t be happy for you.

  Let’s admit it. Not everyone will be happy for your relationship. Even your friends sometimes disagree with your partner. When you’re too loud about what’s going on in the relationship, there are chances that you might get negative opinions from unhappy people that will get out to ruin yours. They may suggest breaking up with your partner even in the smallest fights you have. So you must be wary of choosing people you tell your stories to, or you’ll wake up one day and realize you’ve lost the moon because you’re too busy minding the stars.

  To avoid putting too much pressure in the relationship.

  Everyone likes to hear about happy-ending stories, and your relationship might become one of their fantasies. Although this can be overwhelming for you, this can put a lot of pressure in the relationship to be at your sweetest moments always. Being set as a prototype of real love can be dangerous because you might end up working too hard playing other people’s expectations than enjoying the relationship. It’s scary because you might end up being stressed trying to impress other people.

  Give your relationship a space to be imperfect, because true love allows each other to make mistakes, learn, and grow from them.

  (Reference: https://www.jetmag.com/jetlove/relationship-advice-privacy/)

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