5 Unsaid Reasons Why He Left You

Adi Miguel

May 30, 2017

• And just like that he left you.

  For weeks, months, and years, you’re still wondering why he left you without a valid reason. He just said that he’s tired and left. You just heard him say, “ayoko na” and that’s it. And ever since, you kept on feeding your mind with different reasons like maybe he’s found another girl. Maybe someone came and she was better.

  Well, you can be right. But he got deeper reasons that he can’t say just because he has no guts to tell them to you. Or just because he’s not into drama just like you do.

  But just so you know, he left you because…

  

  IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S HIM.

  It sounds cliché but just like you there are moments when he can’t also figure his own self out. There are also moments when he feels like he’s not enough for you. That he can’t love you enough. Even if he’s a guy and even if he’s not into emotional things, he still thinks of being a better person. He still thinks of the love he gives away. He also has this phase when he just wants to be alone–no attachments, no responsibilities. He has this phase when he also wants to love his self so he can love fully.

  

  HE’S NOT INTO #RELATIONSHIPGOALS.

  All these social media posts, bucket lists, and goals you have, he’s not into it. Or he can’t just do it. The pressure is on when you tag him to couple photos / videos on Facebook. It might sound petty but he can’t just tell you that he’s not sure if he can do all these dreams you have for your relationship. He wants to have your own. But with all these standards you put, he’s having questions in his head if he has the ability to give them to you. He doesn’t want to break your heart. But it make him feel inadequate of being your man and he won’t ever tell you this.

  

  HE GOT FED UP WITH YOUR TRUST ISSUES.

  When you ask him to take photos of where he is, or the people he’s with, he’s tired of it. When you keep on stalking the people he’s with on a group photo, when you message his friends to know where he is, when you always tell him your trust issues, he’s getting fed up. Doing the same thing over and over makes him less manly and he won’t tell you that it hurts his ego when you do.

  All these trust issues that you have makes him tired. He wants to understand you but he also know that you’re not helping yourself to get rid of it. He doesn’t want to hurt you but you’re provoking him.

  

  HE’S FALLING OUT OF LOVE.

  He knows that this is the most painful of all the reasons why he’s breaking up with you. He’s not into another girl, he’s just not into you anymore. The excitement to see you is no longer there. He’s not giddy when he sees your name in his phone. He doesn’t think of you anymore when he sees new restaurants. The future of being with you is not as clear as it is before. He’s doubting universe if you’re still for each other. There’s a part in his heart where it’s okay if you won’t be there for the rest of his life. You’re not included in his plans anymore. And he’s trying his best to. But he just can’t find the same feeling anymore. If it hurts you, it’s hurting him too. He’d rather tell you that he’s cheating than to let you know that he doesn’t love you anymore. Because he knows that you’ll feel less and he cares for you enough to hide that from you.

  

  HE’S NOT GROWING AS A MAN.

  Everything’s been about you. Your comfort, your dreams, your plans for each other, your friends, your dream wedding, and you didn’t care ask him. You forgot that you’re a team. That this relationship is both about you and not you only. He feels like it’s only you who needs growth and not him. He wants that too as an individual and he’s expecting that you’ll help him. That you’ll be by his side on all the things that he wants to achieve. But it seems that it doesn’t matter to you as much as it matters to him.

  He’ll never tell you this because he gives importance to every little thing that matters to you.

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