9 Possible Reasons Why Your First Relationship Didn’t Work

Adi Miguel

October 18, 2016

• Not everyone’s fortunate enough to make their first relationship their last or stick for long. It’s not every day that we get to find someone who can tolerate our craziness, drama, or whatever in life. It’s not every day that we get the chance to meet ‘the one’.

  And the reasons why it didn’t last would always be funny, really heart breaking, or lesson learned…

  

  1. TOO YOUNG

  To some of us, our first relationships, might have happened on our younger years. Or let’s say on the years when adolescence hit us. When hormones affect our bodies, when peers are growing, and when we expose ourselves to things like, boys/girls, crush, love, courtship, kiss, etc.

  These are the days when we all feel so young and so in love–head-over-heels in love. And our hearts can’t contain the overflowing emotions that we have. But somewhere along the way, things will falter. Emotions will not work right. Hearts will be broken. And it’s because of the young decisions we had and immature things we said.

  2. PARENTS

  Yes, they are one of the many reasons why you and your first love didn’t last. Because your parents said that you were too young to be in a relationship, or maybe it won’t help you yet, or whatever reason they have in mind. Whatever it is, they just know when’s the right time to let you go and let someone love you.

  

  3. DISTANCE

  There will be people who are near in our hearts but physically far from us. And no matter how you make it work, someday, somewhere in the relationship, you’ll know that things just won’t make it. You do not fit in the relationship and you just can’t do it anymore. You just can’t take the difference of your time zones and the anniversaries you’re celebrating alone. So it’s better to let go than to hope that it will work out. Because you just have to resolve to yourself that if you are really meant, that person will gravitate back to you in the right time.

  

  4. THIRD PARTY

  One of the most used up reason why relationships do not work out, why two people didn’t stick for so long. There’s someone who intervened, someone in between. And it made one of you confused of what you feel for the other. It gave you so much questions in mind. It gave you so much thinking to do.

  Well, things like that happen. Sometimes your heart is stupid.

  

  5. TIME

  We grow up, we have other things that we prioritize, we have new interests, and things that we want to give more time. And we think that our relationships must not hinder. We have this thought that maybe what we I have right now should not pull me from getting what I want.

  As we grow older, we need more time. Time for our family, our friends, our goals, our hobbies, even ourselves. That sometimes, the time that we have isn’t enough for the relationship that we have.

  

  6. DIFFERENCES

  Even if you have all the fighting spirit in this world to fight for your relationship, even if you are willing to meet halfway, even if you are ready to do what it takes for love, there are just things that you can’t patch anymore.

  There are differences that you can’t settle anymore. Things that even if you have cried so much won’t just workout. These differences that you have, your individuality, it broke you. It made you give up on the person you love, on yourself, and on love itself.

  

  7. RELIGION

  Love is important and so is faith. And for others, differences in faith is enough reason to give up the relationship. It’s enough reason to not pursue what their heart is screaming for. There will even be a time when someone will say, “I can’t continue this relationship unless you’re willing to get converted in our religion.”

  

  8. SPACE

  Just when you thought everything’s fine between the both of you, it’s not. Someone is having a difficulty in his/her personal life. Someone’s contemplating if he/she is in the right place. Someone is too scared to risk, to ask questions, or to face the future. That’s why he/she asks for space–to think, to weigh things, to breathe. And sometimes they forget to go back. They enjoy the space that they asked for. They forgot you.

  

  9. SMALL

  Well, this is for girls. You broke up just because the guy down there is too small and you feel off about that. You broke up just because it doesn’t give you much pleasure and it’s—it’s too small. Period.

• COMMENTS