An open letter to the one who was almost destroyed by an unrequited love – Part II

Troyka Lunar

March 5, 2021

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  What happens when you accept defeat?

  Once you lose yourself, everything will start to hurt. Even the things that used to make you happy will eventually become a trigger of pain. You’ll feel empty because you are no longer happy; loving him no longer makes you happy. You will reach an impasse because you are not yet strong enough to let go, but you are also not brave enough to move forward. At some point, you will feel that loving someone unconditionally can be a good thing, but having someone who can give you the same kind of love you give is a lot better.

  Remember the movie “Meet Me in St. Gallen?” The story revolved around how Bella Padilla was so in love with Carlo Aquino, but he never considered giving her a chance. Bella eventually moved on and soon Carlo realized how much he loved her all along. When the time came that he has finally made up his mind and decided to tell her that he wants to win her back, Bella just shook her head and said, “Tama ka eh. I made you my ideal man. Kaya hindi ka pwedeng masira sa’kin. Kasi my Jesse (Carlo Aquino) always makes me smile. You came into my life; I was never the same. Baka ganito talaga tayo, dumadaan lang.”

  So how did she do it? How do you move on from that? 

  How do you move on from someone that you have already loved beyond his imperfections? Isn’t it hard to convince yourself to “unlove” someone by thinking of his negative traits when you have already accepted and loved all his quirks with all of your heart? How does thinking of bad memories help you move forward when all you can remember is how happy you were when you were loving him?

  At this point, you will realize that moving on does not always need resentment. Maybe all it takes for you to be able to move on is acceptance. Accept the fact that some people are only to cross your life to teach you a lesson, to make you realize that you can love someone more than your own capability, and to make you feel that you also deserve to be loved that way because you are worth it.

  Maybe some people are just meant to cross your life but are not meant to stay and that should be enough to make you happy. He might not be able to give you the love that you wanted to have, but he was able to bring out the best in you. Not being loved back doesn’t make you any less of a person. It doesn’t make the feeling wrong; it made your love real. Just because it was not successful doesn’t mean it is a failure. You took a risk, you learned to love, and now you’ll learn to be contented with what you had; whatever that relationship may be. Remember: “Walang kulang; Wala kang pagkukulang.” It was just not meant to be. So, hear me when I say that you are enough; you will always be enough to someone who truly appreciates you and your love.

  Read: An open letter to the one who was almost destroyed by an unrequited love – Part I

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